As much as individuals try to claim otherwise, our society has a shallow fixation on looks.
While the personality determines whether a person is datable, often enough interest is caught through one’s physical appearance. This is a great thing for those who happen to be deemed to fit societies standards of beauty, but what about the rest of us?
In movies, often the main character undergoes a significant change in looks and external attitude that wins over their love. It’s actually kind of disgusting, how from a young age we’re shown that you have to change yourself to be considered worthwhile.
I think this might be where many self esteem issues stem from, the skewed vision that worth is determined by shallow aspects. We are taught through the media that to be stereotypically beautiful brings a better life.
Yet, this is life.
Those who fit in the tiny standard of beauty are given attention and affection, those who aren’t are told to change themselves. I was told that no guy would ever like me, because I’m too fat…
I’m not fat, am I? Oh, I suppose I am if you compare me to what is perceived as beautiful. Should I have to change my appearance just to attract someone? No. I shouldn’t. I look like me, not some plastic clone.
I think girls should be shown more positive examples of being themselves, no matter how they look. Beauty is only skin deep. I do not want to be only loved or liked when my hair is straightened perfectly or on days I do not eat.
What is more important? Being attractive/dating someone attractive or finding someone who loves you regardless?