My best friend is a real-life grownup who spends her money on things like a first house and a big wedding, instead of leather boots and sweater dresses like me. I’m going to be one of three bridesmaids in the ceremony. She really wanted us to like the dresses, so she left it up to us to choose it. Her only requirement was that the color be some sort of blue, to fit in with her winter theme. Can three girls, all different ages and sizes, agree on the same dress? Highly unlikely.
The maid of honor and I basically wanted two completely different dresses. We agreed the dress should be something we could wear again, to another wedding perhaps. In my opinion, that meant that the dress should obviously be short. I don’t have any proms coming up in the near future, so a gown didn’t seem very practical. Yet, she was drawn to the long dresses. I felt the color should be either a dark blue, like navy, or a very icy blue to match the winter theme. She favored turquoise and teal. At a certain point, I gave up and accepted the fact that I’d be spending $200 on a dress I’d never wear again. But when it’s time for me to get married, here are a few examples of the type of dresses I’ll consider for my bridesmaids:
Is it me or do the models’ limbs always look awkwardly Photoshopped in on the David’s Bridal website? Yikes. Provided your bridemaids aren’t scarily Photoshopped creatures, I think this cut would be flattering on many different body types.
A bow creates some interest on an otherwise simple cocktail dress from JCrew without being too distracting or tacky.
I love all the dresses from Priscilla of Boston, and if you couldn’t tell, I also love simple dresses with fun details. This is similar to the dress above, in that a rosette on the bodice makes it memorable. The headpiece, however, is another story…
If I did choose a gown, I would want it to be very clean and simple so that my bridesmaids could rewear it at other occasions without feeling like a beauty pageant contestant. Bonus points if they could easily have a tailor shorten it into a cocktail dress after the ceremony if they wanted. This dress is also by Priscilla of Boston.
Which do you guys like best? What type of qualifications would you have for your bridemaids’ dresses? Have you been a bridesmaid before, and if so, did you like the dress?
cherry blossom / 43 posts
Love the first one! Beautiful
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I love the second and third dress
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I love the first one, very simple yet elegant.
The second one is nice too, but it may look *ehem*… complicated and awkward on girls with big boobs.
The third one has the a-little-bit-too-big bowy flower that made the model looks completely flat-chested.
The last one is too… boring, yet, overcomplicated, making it almost look like a bride’s dress.
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Loveee the second one! first one isnt very bridesmaid ish
cherry blossom / 46 posts
The first one is the most re-wearable. As someone with a big chest, anything with a specific line there, like the second dress, will NEVER sit right. Also, general advice, make sure a color that everyone can wear is chosen… My friend who’s getting married (and I’ll be a bridesmaid) wanted us to wear baby blue. I’m a pale, pale person, so that is going to make me look like a ghost.
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Like the first and second.
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Short dresses, as in above the knee, are really retarded for weddings. I don’t know who told you it was okay, but it shouldn’t have become acceptable.
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I am letting my bridesmaids choose their dresses. My wedding is going to be in the spring, so I let them have free reign. My only requirement is that they have spring colors (not necessarily pastel). In fact, I want them all to have different dresses and different colors. As long as they look slightly similar I’ll be happy.
daisy / 512 posts
Sorry, what is a “completely dress”?
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the first dress is nice, but keep in mind anything with too high of a neckline is going to make anyone with boobs look like they have a uniboob and kinda chub.
and the one side strap is a little dated. the other dresses are pretty good though, and almost rewearable. though if youre a bridesmaid you kinda admit to yourself youre never going to wear it again.
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The second to last one.
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I really like the first one, the color is really awesome too :)
dahlia / 2747 posts
looove the second one!
cherry blossom / 48 posts
@softaswater@xanga - It’s funny, because I never liked the asymmetrical cut when it was “in”, but now I don’t mind it.
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ugh, this post just stressed me out.. don’t even want to think about planning my wedding, but it’s only 5 months away =(
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Yuck to all of them, sorry.
orchid / 126 posts
The first one is one of the dresses that I’m considering for my bridesmaids.
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I’ve had friends having this problem. Either the cut didnt fit their bodies, or they simply did not like the fact that it emphasized a body part they weren’t too fond of. I love the idea of the bride choosing the color. and then having the girls choose the style for themselves. one girl may have dress 1, another dress 2….that way each girl is comfortable for the ceremony AND the reception and the color scheme is still the brides/grooms decision. its a great idea!
oh, i remember my friend telling me she only had to find a black dress. well just about every girl has the LBD. great idea? well, she has to wear a hooded cape in the forest at night… yea. it ended looking cute, and the bride was happy. thats all that mattered.
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in my own personal opinion, bridesmaid’s dresses are the ugliest ever because of course the bride is supposed to be the most beautiful that day. the last wedding i was in was my older sisters and the bridesmaid basically picked out our own dresses but in a certain color. for my cousin’s wedding, the bridesmaids all went to go dress shopping and tried on all sorts of dresses to find the perfect one. luckily, we all found a dress that looked good on all of us and that we all liked.
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Honestly I think I’m just going to let my bridesmaids pick whatever dress they want, as long as it’s black!
orchid / 203 posts
i love the neckline on the first dress. i found a wedding dress i love with almost the same neckline.im hoping to find it when i start dress shopping.
daffodil / 1975 posts
I’d just let them pick whatever they wanted since I plan to get married in Vegas.
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I’m getting married in a year and a half and I’m still trying to decide what I want for bridesmaid’s. I’m still trying to decide between all the same dress with different shades of blue, different dresses of same color, or different dresses and different shades of blue. Ahh I so don’t want to think about wedding planning.
orchid / 104 posts
If I ever get married, I would let my bridesmaids pick her own dress. Though, it would have to be a certain color that followed along with the color scheme. Like if I wanted the all to wear red, the color dress could be a pink – crimson but not a maroon….
Future bridezilla? I hope not
dahlia / 2942 posts
I like the first one! It can be reused for another occasion, unlike most bridesmaids dresses.
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I am going to go with my bridesmaids when I get married and tell them all to get a simple black dress. They can be unique to themselves, but simple, so they don’t out-shine mine.
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could u tell us what is your skin color>?
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When I picked out dresses for my bridesmaids, I took them all to David’s Bridal and showed them the ones I liked and they picked from those ones. When my friend got married she went to David’s Bridal, picked out a color and told her bridesmaids to just pick a dress in that color. It was awesome and that way everybody got a dress that looked right on them.
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@itscatwithak@xanga - It’s only as bad as you make it out to be. I assure you it won’t be as difficult as you think it is. Take it one step at a time and everything will fall into place. Believe me, I felt completely overwhelmed, too. I think the to-do checklist on theknot.com is very helpful making sure you get everything done in a timely fashion. And when things seem to be out control, just remind yourself the reason why you’re getting married: You love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him. A wedding is just one day, but a marriage is a lifetime. (I know, hopeless romantic!) Gook luck!
As for me being a bridesmaid, I have never been, only been a bride once. For my bridesmaids, I didn’t choose the same dress for everyone. It was a summer wedding, I went for knee-length and tea-length. Summer and spring should have shorter styles but I think for fall and winter, long gown is perfectly acceptable. And I’d have to agree with the navy or icy blue for winter theme. I looked for dresses that best suited for the figures of the girls, I wanted them to look and feel pretty!
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When my sister got married, she told my other two sisters and I exactly what colors she wanted. Since she and her husband are something of celebrities here, they had a huge wedding and a fairly massive wedding party, so she made my sisters and I pick what we wanted, and then she made the other bridesmaids dresses a little simpler than what we picked.
But when I was in my friend Kristin’s wedding last summer, the bridesmaids and groomsmen were alternating colors. One bridesmaid would wear blue, the next pink, the next yellow, then blue, and so on. And their groomsmen escorts would wear the same color vest. It was really cute, and it was a fun idea. [:
I don’t really know what I’ll do when I get married. I guess I’ll pick a dress that suits my sisters frame very well, and a color that looks good on them, and then everyone else can get over it. [:
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LOVE the second one! ((:
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For my future wedding, I would probably have bridesmaids wear black, or something simple like red…solid colors, short dress. I MAY even suggest them to decide what design/style/fit they wanted as long as it was approved by me and didn’t over flatter them…hell, it’ll be my show, right? =)
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Short dresses are more usable unless the wedding is in winter. yellow is not flattering for many complexions. I like the strapless with embellished bodice looks.
hydrangea / 57 posts
The second and third ones are gorgeous.
The first is the most reusable, I believe.
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I ended up letting my bridesmaids pick whatever dress they liked best and were most comfortable in, because they are all completely different body types, I just had them all stick with the same color and it turned out great:
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