Lovelyish

I want his last name.

Webb. <3

I would change my last name, certainly.

However, I’ve toyed with the idea of keeping my maiden name as a middle name. 

I did change my last name when I got married. I think it was more special to my husband that I take his last name. And I just never considered keeping mine.

I guess yeh. I would change my last name to my husband’s last name, but not combine it. Lol. 

I intend on changing mine. My last name is SUPER SUPER common, and his is not, so it’s a move in the right direction in having an odd name. haha

I’m definitely gonna change my name. Unless it’s something mindbogglingly hideous…

I would change my last name.

I guess it depends on how cool my husband’s last name is. But I am pretty attached to my last name. Most likely I would hyphenate it.

I want my husband’s last name. [:

I would change my last name. I like the idea of it.

Hell no!…

He can take MY fucking last name!

I changed mine.
I went from a pretty uncommon last name, to a very common last name.
it didn’t really matter to me though.

Definitely keeping mine.  I’d consider hyphenating his name with mine if he had a really cool last name.  But I’m keeping mine.  I don’t agree with the idea that I have to be the one to change my identity just because I’m female.  As for what would happen with the kids, either they’d hyphenate or half of them would have my last name and half of them would have his.  That way, both of us get to pass on our name.  After all, we’re both passing on our genes, so why not?

I don’t think changing/keeping relates to how much I love my future husband, it has nothing to do with him. I’m just so used to my own name, and I know he’s not big on b eing traditional, so it’s no biggie for us if I keep my own name.. which I think I will for sure. My mom kept her last name, it’s just convenient. 

I would probably hyphenate, depending on how things sounded.

I changed my last name to my husband’s because I love having his last name and knowing that we are Mr. and Mrs. J.  It’s special to me.  A friend of mine and her husband came up with a new last name when they got married so they both changed thier name.  They are really into astrology and the sun and moon and stuff so they combined Sol (spanish for sun) and Luna (spanish for moon) and came up with Soluna.  That’s something different for ya =)

I would change my last name, definitely. I welcome the change since his name is shorter than my 10 letter last name.

I don’t like my last name so I would gladly change it.

I like my boyfriend’s last name.  It’s easy to make fun of, I guess, but I like it and if we marry I am TAKING it.

I would keep my name.  Like you said, it’s definitely part of my identity, and if I changed my name I would feel like a different person.  But maybe after 7 years I might change it =P.

I would take his.

I would keep it the same out of loyalty to my roots or change it out of respect for my would be husband.  I don’t think I’ll hyphenate unless it works together.

Honestly, that depends on what my future husband’s last name is…Sarah is already a ridiculously common name, so I don’t want to be yet another Sarah Smith or Jones or whatever…but some last names are just so unfortunate. Like a woman who works at my bank, her last name is QUEER…it’s her MARRIED name…she must really love her husband!

you c..if i married an asian viet guy..most likely his be NGUYEN!!!!!! LIKE MEEE

I changed my name.  But I hyphenate it for special circumstances, like a job application where they know my dad.  I kind of like the idea of hyphenating it, but it’s just too long for every day stuff.  Also, Brimmer-Powers sounds really freakin sweet.

I would definitely change mine. I guess I’m fairly traditional in that aspect; my grandmothers and my mother all changed their names, so I feel like I should, too. It may sound picky, but I would never marry a guy if I didn’t like his last name (I can’t date guys with terrible first names, either…it’s just a quirk of mine).

I don’t think I could change my name. It’s who I am…and it’s still who I am going to be when i get married…

I was never really understood why the woman had to change her last name at all. Shouldn’t the ring be enough to say two people are married?

I’m not sure I will probably have to wait and see, but I probably would. I just it seems natural to change it, ya know? If it an odd last name then I might keep mine. I mean I like my last name..Plus it makes my intials spell SAM and I don’t plan on marring a game just because his last name starts with an M…

In the Vietnamese culture, women don’t change their last name when married.  I plan on keeping this tradition.

I’m keeping my damn name…my kids (if I have any) will be hyphenated. They can choose when they’re older.

I’m putting a lot of hard work in to my education and career, and I want MY name to be attached to it.

Change.

I’m changing my last name. It’ll be kind of weird at first, ’cause I’ll still have a year of college left after the wedding, which will inevitably complicate things. But I like the idea of sharing a name with my husband, and I have no problem with taking his.

Of course, it will be super annoying listening to people try to pronounce my new last name. Mayeux isn’t exactly spelled phonetically.

I think I’d hyphenate it o_o

I will change my last name as mine is very common – unless my future husband is a Lee, Wong, Li &etc. 

i was thinking about this the other day.  i’m not sure if i would want to change my name.  may be i would do just because i loved him but if he didn’t care, i would keep my name.  i like my name.  and don’t want the hassle of changing it.

I would keep my name

I mean I probably wont mind if they called me Mrs. what not but officially I’m not changing it 

i plan on changing it. 

well i’m giving my baby her fathers name. and hopefully down the road if we get married we will all have the same name.

I would most likely change my last name. 

I’m not a huge fan of my last name right now, so my husbands would probably be way more appealing to me. Besides, I wouldn’t mind being associated with him, kind of gives bragging rights. like ” Yes, he is my husband! ”  . haha I don’t know, but yes i would change mine.  No questions asked. Unless my husband had an unruly last name. lol

I’m not changing.  I love my family identity.  Not that I wouldn’t be excited to start my own family with my (future) husband, I just feel very attached to my biological family and our history.  If I have children, I supposed I would consider hyphenating.  It really depends on what the guy wants to do as well.  However, I love the sound of my full name.  It suits me.  I wouldn’t change it.

It’s funny; as a young adolescent, I used to want to change my name to something entirely different!  The name I picked was Jada.  No lies.  My name, for the record, is Danielle, and I thought “Jada” sounded so much cooler.  Hah!

His.

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I would be Miss (My surname), or Mrs (His surname).

I will never get married but for the sake of this lets say I was so super excited and ready to get married.

I would probably take my husband’s last name simply because I’ve never been 100% fond of my own last name as it has ended in countless stereotypical judgements and assumptions that piss me off. I am so much more than my last name, thank you very much!

A more interesting question: would you try to convince your husband to take your last name?

i’m married and i changed my name

I would change my name.

I would change my last name, definately. Unless the person who happen to marry…has a unique last name, haha. Yeah, it will depend on my future husband’s last name.

i did, and now it’s so nice to not have to spell it for people (my maiden name was of scottish descent).

I definitely want to keep mine. Its ethnically very distinctive (middle eastern) so its part of my identity and my heritage which is important to me, and I like that its very uncommon.

I plan to change mine. His name certainly doesn’t sound that amazing with mine, but i’m not too fond of my own last name either. I just think it’s adorable to have you’re husbands last name, it’s the way it should be, in my mind.

i thought about doing the brangelina thing and going with a myname-hisname thing (ex. jolie-pitt).but idk, there’s this whole asian thing that plays into my decision making process.

michelle and freddie are hollywood’s perfect couple imo. (:

I debated this myself a couple of months ago.. I felt like I was losing a part of my identity by changing my last name to my fiances.. and he is against hyphenated names for our future kids, which is fair enough..
so I’ve decided to change it to his, he’s my new partner, it shows to me that we’re a married union through name, and also because it’s his fathers name.. and I love what his dad/family have stood for over the years.. so I’d be proud to take their name. I’m gaining, not losing.

I would change my name.

i think i’d change it

I’m definitely changing my last name. To me, that’s really important.

yes, my last name sucks.I want to have something different..for so many reasons. 

I would definitely change my name. I would want the same name as my children.

no, i don’t see a reason why i should do such a thing.

@enterthelabyrinth@xanga - i agree!

id hyphenate it. =P

or maybe ill force him to take my last name =)

i need my last name somewhere in there, whether i combine or keep my own. the person who is most likely a future husband at this moment in time (current bf) is of a different nationality/race than me. i don’t want to lose who i am by changing my name.. you know how you see the last name and sort of figure out their background? i don’t want them to see a russian last name and be surprised at seeing an asian person. lol. and the last name really isn’t me.

If I married my boyfriend and hyphenated my last name, I would be Christine Yin-Noh, y’know?

….so…I’d probably just keep my last name. I like it!

I am married and I took on his last name …

BUT, if I were a celeb … I would keep my maiden name.
In ‘CelebWorld’ the last name is a big thing – Like if, Taylor Swift got married and changed to Taylor Potter or something … no one would know who she was anymore – just my opinion on things … doing something like ‘Taylor Swift-Potter’ would be okay too but I personally dislike 2 last names :S

HUH?? what planet was I on the whole time SMG was pregnant? anyway…. I don’t mind changing mine. was never an issue to me.

I would definitley chang my last name. Some people look at it as making yourself as “belonging” to your husband or forgetting your roots. I look at it this way, my middle names were after people in my family so I keep both and still have my identity there. Changing my name to his makes us a team Mr. and Mrs. [last name here] which is how a marriage works. Plus I like the idea of taking his last anme, it would make me feel like even more apart of him.

I’D KEEP IT… EVEN THOUGH I AIN’T FAMOUS BUT I RATHER KEEP IT…

I’m not really sure yet. I still have time to think about it though.

Yesterday I had a bit of argument about the name of an italo-french actress. I said that her real name was the name she choose in civil Life, and someone persisted to told me that her real name was her maiden name…

In fact in France, while you get married, you have to choose if you keep your maidden name and give it to your husband (to preserve your name because you are the last one of your family for example), or you can take your husband’s name, or make a mixe (Longoria-Parker).

I think I would take the name of my husband. The combination well maybe. He has a name like “Smith” in england… but with a french name. And I have a more uncommon name.

i want to change mine when i get married, my surname isn’t really me.
but my boyfriend’s surname doesn’t go,

louise parnaby =/

i’m not sure i like it really, he does but then it’s his surname.

I changed my name

isnt that one of the main things of getting married? lmao

i’ll take his last name(:

I’ll probably change it, depending on who has the better surname. Hypenating is interesting though. If I was famous though…nah.

My name is my identity so I want to keep it. It doesnt mean I dont love my husband & if people call me “Mrs. X” socially, I would still answer as I am his wife.

Chris Martin said it best, a name is just a sound & it doesnt matter, the soul does. It shouldnt matter if the names of 2 people are the same, marriage is in the heart, soul & mind, not letters on a paper. Not every woman changes her name & there are some awesome guys out there who take their wives last name for various reasons. To me when I see families “argue” over why the bride wont take “their name”, it signifies something way deeper they dont like.

I don’t really see the big deal in changing one’s last name, sorry.
So if I ever do get married, I’d be sure to change my surname.

I’d change it, I have no ties to my own name. 

To me, a name does not define or make one’s identity. It is just a name. I am me no matter what name I hold. Even if I don’t have a name, I am still me. Because me is made up by my personality, my life experiences, my memories, my SELF.

To me, the only reason a name is there is not so much for self image, but more for the fact that when someone yells at you across a room, you will know to whom they are speaking. “Hey you!” would garner quite a bit of attention. ^_~

So, if I got married (which I never intend to do), I would change my name. Unless he wanted to do something out of the ordinary and take MY name instead. But, I care very little for shattering norms. I don’t think that my female freedom on any level is compromised by changing my name, either. Just like his masculine freedom is not compromised by taking my name. Or by having me hyphenate or otherwise combine our last names. Or perhaps him doing that instead.

Names are relative. They are somewhat important, but by no means are they important to me as my Self since I am not defined that way as a person.

At least, that’s how I see it. :p I’m just weird like that.

I would change my last name.

tiffany parsons sounds better than tiffany shelswell anyway.

i’m taking his name =)

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - AMEN SISTER! I’m tired of the world’s misogyny! My husband can and WILL take my last name or he’ll find himself WITHOUT a wife.

I don’t really want to lose my last name, but the guy I am with right now (with whom i discuss things like this) wants our future children to have his last name, not even hyphenated or anything. I love my last name, and not that I don’t like his, but his sister is Annie, and I’m Anna, so I feel like then I am just going into his sister’s place with her in the family (especially since we have so much in common, we are almost twins). I really don’t want to lose my last name, and I also want my future children to somehow have my last name, and not in their middle names or anything like that.

I’m Chinese, and traditionally, Chinese people don’t change their last names when they get married.  Personally, I think that I’d be ok with changing my last name, but considering how the majority of the people I date have been outside of my ethnicity, I sometimes don’t think that my name would sound right with a different last name.  Especially considering my boyfriend’s last name…

Cicy Wooden?  What?  That’s…kinda strange
Or how about if I hyphenate it:  Cicy Wooden-Li.  or would it be Cicy Li-Wooden?
It just sounds kind of funny either way :/  The first sounds like an adverb -__-

lol ehh i think i’ll change it. but we’ll see when it happens

I changed my last name.  I think my new last name sounds better and also when I created my website the .com domain was free because it wasn’t so common : )
http://jessicamckelvin.com

i’ll change my last name when i get married im pretty sure of it lol.

I would change my last name because I hate mine.

omg, her dress is gorgeous.

but yes, i’d change my name.

i’ll change my last name. too many kimberly jones’s in the world anyways.

my boyfriends sister-in-law dropped her middle name and made her maiden name her middle and took his last.

If I marry my dream man So Ji sub then I would change my last name in a heartbeat but otherwise, no, i won’t change my last name if I got married.

Hyphenate

I like my boyfriend’s last name but it just doesn’t sound right with my name.  Therefore, I’m going to follow my mom’s footsteps and keep mine.  Besides, I think taking the husband’s name is not a societal convention in many Asian cultures. 

@immaairheadxl@xanga - If that happens then you could hyphenate your last names…Nguyen-Nguyen sounds nice. =)

I think it would depend if his last name sounded nice with my first name =D
If it didn’t … then I guess not -

I don’t know, it would depend.

I’m discussing marriage with my boyfriend currently and surprisingly, this has not come up at all yet.. I’m trying to determine what I want, because my name, I am so very close with.. Especially my middle and last name, but I also want to take my boyfriend’s last name as well.. I’m thinking I’ll just have two last names, or hyphenate.. My dad (where I got my last name) has passed away, and he was the greatest man to me, and I don’t want to lose anything that he gave me, as silly as that sounds. So I’ll probably stick with my name and then add his to my last name =]. Yay for hyphenations!

my last name is very pretty and i love it, but it doesnt go with my first name … so i dont know yet, but i think i will change it if i like his last name

I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and as traditional as I am, I think I would keep my name. 

definitely NOT changing my last name; i’ve been “firstname lastname” all my life, and i’m sure as hell not changing that just because i got married.  i’m just going to have two last names, but MY last name will always be first, and it will be the default last name if i ever have to only go by one.

but if he has a hideous name, i may consider just keeping mine, hahaha

I’ll probably hyphenate mine…if I ever even get married!

I did not change my name, but it was mostly because of work.  After being at my job for almost ten years, I didn’t want to confuse people and wanted to keep my maiden name at work.  Then I was told whatever I changed it to legally, I had to change it to at work.  (Apparently the earth would either crack in half or stop spinning on it’s axis if I dared to defy legal documentation.)  After discussing it with my husband-to-be, he was fine with me not changing it.

If they are having a child, celebrities may choose to change/hyphenate their names so that the child will have the same last name as both parents…

Hmm. I wonder if I could add his last name onto mine, and then he could add my last name to his, so that we both have it hyphenated…do people do that?

Anyway…I plan on changing my last name to my husband’s, but I don’t know. I have a last name that people remember when they hear it, and I kinda like that because it’d be good when I’m older. But I’m also not at all proud of the side of the family that I got my last name from. So I’d probably change it. 

My sister plans on ditching her middle name and replacing it with her current last name.  (She’s certain our mom will throw a fit about it, but oh well.)  I think I will have four names and keep my middle name.  I don’t want to hyphenate, though, because Roszkowski-Shaieb sounds awful.  It’s bad enough that many people don’t know how to pronounce either name.  I wouldn’t want to combine them and make a super-difficult last name.

He wants me to replace my last name with his.  I don’t because I’ve always identified myself as Stefanie Roszkowski — why would I want to have a different name?  I think having both names will satisfy both of us.

I suggested him taking MY last name, but he would hear none of that.

I’d love my last name to change. Oh so much.

The day I get married is the day I change my last name so yeah I would change my last name

I would take his last name with no hesitation.

When I got married, I decided that I would not change my last name even though my husband really wanted me to. Firstly, it sounded funny and secondy, both his mom, maternal & paternal grandmothers did not change their names so why is his last name so important that I must change mine as well. Besides it’s just more convenient to keep my name the way it is. I didn’t marry my husband for his name.

This is why I AMSOLUTELY HATE CHANGING YOU LAST NAME WHEN YOU GET MARRIED: the female line of the ancestry is lost. Oh, in my family, we can track the guys down for generations, but as for the ladies, it stops after they get married because no one knows their last name. I’ve always had a problem with the girls having to change their last name, and even when I was seven, my mom couldn’t convince me it was something I should do.

I’m keeping my last name, damnit.

I changed my name.  For one, I’m not identified by my last name no more than I am by my first name, my eye color, height, etc.  It’s a name that people call me, sure, but it doesn’t make me me.  Second, when you marry someone,  you are joining that person, becoming a family, just makes more sense and makes it easier if everyone in the family has the same last name (which is why “family name” is how last name is sometimes referred).  Now, if I wanted to be more modern and trendy or whatever, I would have gone with one of the many options available to couples such as changing his name to my name, hyphenating the two names and both taking it, or picking a whole new name for both of us.  I think what is important here, again, is that everyone has the same name. 
This becomes even more important when kids are involved, which may have prompted SMG’s change.  True story:  One of my professors in college was married, his wife kept her name.  They had a child, who was given the father’s last name.  The child had a package that a relative sent to addressed to them, waiting at the post office for pick up.  The mother took the child to get the package but got into a hassle over it because the child did not have ID, being quite young still, and her ID did not have the same last name as the child.  I ran into a similar situation when trying to pick something up for my husband once, shortly after we were married and my name changed had not been made official.  I had to sign for it, and show ID, but was unable to because our last names did not match, so there was no “proof” that I was his spouse.

I would not change my last name, there’s a lot of family history behind that name and I would not want to “throw that away”. 

I would~.

Yes, I am taking my husband’s name. No hyphens. If I ever publish something, than I am using his name. G-d knows he is my editor. If he leaves me (as I will never leave him) than I will keep his name. My first born son is going to be named after him.

I’d change my name, cus i (will) love him ;P

I’d change my last name… it is way to long and the man I am going to marry will have a shorter (not so complicated) last name lol.

I would take my husbands name, but keep my own in there.. since it’s only my sister and i, our last name won’t be passed on :/

I don’t want to lose my last name because it’s a really interesting part of myself. Hyphenating doesn’t seem like an option because my surname is 10 letters long and I can’t imagine it turning out well. I’ll most likely change it when the situation comes up. I hope my husband has as equally a cool and unique last name as I do.

i’ll keep my name.  

I would hyphenate, and that’s only if his last name isn’t lame. If there’s one thing I have that I think is cool that I never HAVE to give up, that’ll never break or get thrown out, is my awesome last name. And I don’t see any reason to change my last name. He can change his name, if he likes mine better. Or he can hyphenate. But I’m pretty intent on keeping my full name intact.

As of right now I plan on taking my boyfriend’s name when we get married. However, I paint and write, and if by the time I marry my man anything I’ve created has gotten any real publicity, the issue will warrant further thought. If Eastman-Bendetti weren’t such a mouthful I’d just hyphenate.

I may combine my husband’s last name with mine, but I’d definitely not taking his last name. Why don’t men ever take the women’s last name, like in Saving Silverman? My dad said that if my mom didn’t take his last name, he might not have married her. :/

I’m getting married October 10th and I will be hyphenating. Our children will have his last name though.

When we get married, I AM keeping my last name. And my boyfriend is taking my last name, and any children will have that same last name.

thats really hardd.

i think about it sometimes. i feel like, after decades of being “___name___” itd be bizarre and kind of identity-stripping to be..called a different name completely!

Im currently debating this idea. A part of me wants to keep my last name and the other part also wants a part of him to be mine. If i do go ahead and hyphenate my name, itll be will be wayyy too long…so im stuck. /:

i think it’s really going to depend on the last name of who i marry, my name Anike is kind of unique in the frustrating way that it does NOT sound okay with certain last names soooo i think i’m going to decide that when i get married and stuff.

I would gladly take him name.  It’s part of the deal.

No i wouldnt =/ my name is who i am and i dont want to gave that up just to marry not that i have anything against my bf’s last name i just wanna keep mine.

I am going to hyphenate my name. My last name plays a big part in my identity, but marrying my husband means his family is part of my identity as well. As for my children, the ones I hope to have, they will only use my husband’s last name. They don’t have to have my last name too, just so people know that I am their mother. Those are my kids and that’s my man, and as long as I know that, that’s all that matters.

i’m keeping mine, it’s a powerful name

Hmm, I would like to not change my name (: 

I plan on hyphenating. =) I don’t really like the idea of completely losing MY last name, and taking his as my own.

I would probably keep my own surname, but let people refer to me by his Surname.

i like my name. i probably won’t change it, but who knows?

I’m writing this as another male reader and commenter.  I really don’t say my last name much, and I don’t really care for it.  If I were with a woman who strongly wanted to keep her last name, yet have mine changed, then I wouldn’t mind.  I still wouldn’t really see or say my last name unless the environment calls for it.  I don’t mind hyphening my last name, front or back.  A flower by any other name would smell just as sweet (don’t mind my paraphrasing) so nothing about me would really change.  My name doesn’t make me who I am, but it helps others recognize me.  Women with “odd”, “weird”, or “funny” last names have a chance to ditch the name.  If men have the “odd”, “weird”, or “funny” last name, then they’d most likely stick to it, but women don’t have to necessarily take on that last name.  Heck, you could change your name altogether and name yourself Ash Ketchum while you’re at it.  Names, in my opinion, shouldn’t be an issue.  You may be belittled as a child for it, but you won’t be the only person in the world who’s gone through this.  People will be people.  Either change your name or learn to laugh at yourself.  That’s my opinion anyway.

I’d probably hyphenate because I am very attached to my name, and I also feel a need to carry on the family name as long as I can since the name is sort of dying out in my family.  I also think my full name, first, middle, and last, is awesome, haha, so I’ll probably just add to it and maybe make my kids’ middle names my maiden name.  *shrug*  I guess I’ll just cross that bridge when I get to it!! 

I will not change my name. It is a part of who I am and the last link to part of my heritage. When the time comes, I would like to ask my eventual husband to consider our children having my last name.

Personally…I don’t like the idea of either spouse changing their name when they marry…it implies that you’re changing who you are for the sake of someone else, and I don’t like that, I expect my boyfriend to take me as I am, not as he would like me.

I’d drop my name like a rock unless his was Pitts or something. Then I’d have to think about it.

But I think my last name goes when I do. :/

I’d hyphenate it.. or add it at the end like eva langoria did

Only if the guy has a really awesome last name. Otherwise, I’m keeping my own last name.

Yup, would change my last name  =3

I love my last name. I love everything it stands for, and everyone it stands for. It’s got a big fan base behind it, when someone here’s it they automatically think of my family and it has a good reputation. It’d be hard to get rid of it, but I think I would. It’s like starting your own new family. And my children can grow up to love their last name too. :]

Generally, women either take their husbands’ names or they retain their fathers’. If a woman’s goal is to not be defined in terms of a man, good luck.

if i were to marry someone, i’d like to take her last name, cuz i don’t like mine [family stuff] P: ..

okay, I read through all of these comments and i’m surprised that only two people (should_I_tell_you and tsuki_dragon) had the same opinion as my bf. He hates his last name, and likes mine– so he wants to change his to mine if we ever get married. He was pretty adamant about it!!
  I was surprised when he first suggested it because I’d always assumed I would change mine to my husband’s, but i realized that (like you said) it’s more for family unity for our kids. so now i kind of like the idea =) cause I like my last name a lot! and it’s only girls left in my branch of the family anyways so this way we can pass it on. 

I’d either keep or hyphenate. I think it’s a common practice among Chinese women to keep their maiden name, and my boyfriend is also a different ethnicity from me so people would probably expect someone who looks different.

I have a rather unique last name – not too many people in the world have it .. its long and unusual (dutch) and people have a hell of a time prounouncing it let alone spelling it. Ive always been proud of my last name due to the fact that its complicated, unusual and defiantly different- which totally reflects me as a person.

When I got engaged I didnt want to change my last name – I love my last name to bits .. We even considered adding his name (which was Sly) to the end of my last name as the last letter in my name was an S .. so we were going to add ‘ly’ to the end of my name but his parents wouldnt have it and well I ended up getting barraged into changing it over to Sly which I hated.

When we got divorced I was soo glad to have my last name back – and now if I ever get married again I am determined to keep my last name – its me .. it reflects my hertitage – my blood line. In my view adding your partners name to your name is just ownership .. I am an individual .. men dont want to be owned by women and I think its the same back .. I wasnt born a Sly, I didnt have Sly bloodlines .. I was never a Sly, and it never felt right.

So if a man truly loves me he will see that its not necessary for me to change my last name.

When my son was born the guy I was with was happy for my last name to be the name because we werent married etc .. However we negotiated and instead of my son being circumsized (which I dont believe in) .. he was left uncut and he got his fathers name of Wilson. Personally I think Wilson suits him a whole lot better then my name would have. And if I have anymore children Id be happy for them to have their fathers last name .. I just want to keep mine.

It depends on what it is. If it sounds better, then yes – otherwise no.

i want his last name!  i’m proud to join his family! 

I want his last name because I love his name and it means I am his.  Plus, my name is too hard to say and really long, although I really do love it.  I want his last name because it is going to be so happy saying hello “Mr and Mrs S.” x)

I changed mine.  It was too long to hyphenate.  So, I just changed it.

nehh . my name is super nice w/o changing it ! Im loving it

i plan to. it shows that my husband and i are unified. not that he owns me, he didn’t go buy me at the store. we were in love and we chose to marry each other. plus it’s the beginning of a new life, my husband and i are now one, shouldn’t we have the same last name? if he wanted to take my last name or hyphenate it with his then by all means, but i don’t think anyone would, my last name sucks.

im definitely going to combine his last name to mine … unless its something crazy that is too long to be combined or doesnt sound good lol .

Of course.

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - This exactly!!

No changing and no hypenating. Once you start in science you need to make it so everyone can search for you.  My last name is so rare that I’m pretty sure I know all of the people in the US with my last name. It’s Finnish.

Wow seems like a lot of women would change their last name.

As for me, no, I wouldn’t. I can’t imagine being anyone but me. I would toy with the idea of hyphenating, but his last name is just too long for me to even consider hyphenathing (mine’s not that short either!). So all in all, I will go by my maiden even after marriage.

i’d change it but keep my maiden name too .

we talked about it once, my boyfriend and I, and I told him he was going to take mine, and he was like ok, of course, if it’s important to you, It’ll take some getting used to, because I wanted to be traditional and keep mine. but that’s when I decided I would do anything for him, and we were keeping his to be tradition, even if his is dreadfully common.

I quite like my last name, so I’ve thought about keeping it and adding his at the end when I marry. But there are two problems with that: 1) It doesn’t sound good together, and 2) My boyfriend (who I’d definitely call “The One”) doesn’t want me to do that. So… I’ll probably end up just taking his name.

I would definitely take my husband’s name.
It would probably take me a while to get used to the change though, Schaefer to Baranski

@laurenmaureen@xanga - Lol, I know! My fiance has a last name that I can barely even pronounce, hahaha. What kind of hideous names are you talking about?

@modelstatusxquotes@xanga - hahaha something like… super german, you know? like schleidermenheimerbach or something crazy ahahahaha

LOL! That seriously made me laugh for a minute. Wa’Thiong’O

A chinese name would throw me off hardcore.

Hee, i like my last name =] Yet, i might change it…it’s not like it will disappear; it will still be a part of me. But then again, if i marry my bf (kind of a funny thought at this point, even though i love him; i’m only 18! XD), i would see what he thinks. His last name isn’t bad. Rather nice, actually. It’s simple, (common i guess!) easy to pronounce like mine, and only 4 letters like mine! I don’t know if he would favor the Viet way or more western tradition of changing last names though. O.o

lol at the “super-German” name XDD

I would certainly change my last night. (:

NOT CHANGING IT. Maybe I’ll hyphenate it, but not change it completely. I was even considering making my last name my middle name, but I plan to make my Chinese legally my middle name when I turn 18 (: I don’t know… it’s like a personal identity issue for me. As much as I will love my future husband, I can’t give up who I am and where I can from. I was born Joann ____, so I’ll remain as such (: I sorta want the kids to have hyphenated last names, but I’m not sure yet… I’ll talk it out with my future hubby (: 

I changed my last name…

My brother’s wife had another idea…she and my brother are both actors living in NYC…she legally took my brother’s last name…so she is Christine Roth….but for stage and acting purposes her name is still Christine DeFrece…it just sounds better, doesn’t it?

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - I KNOW RIGHT!

I will probably change my name when/if I get married simply becuase I really don’t like any part of my name, so I might as well change it to something else.  Although, my friend recently told me I might be better off to hyphenate if I marry the guy I’m currently seeing.

My last name is so unusual I wouldn’t mind taking Martin.

I actually kind of like the ring it has a little bit more, too.

Unless he really really wants my last name…  haha

Not that we’ve even discussed marriage, definitely not happening anytime soon. But it’s kinda fun to think about. Reminds me of little girls writing their “married names” on notebooks in school.  :]

I’d keep mine just because it isn’t so common. 

does it every cross people’s minds that they don’t -have- to change their last names? that last names show possession? first you belong to your father, and now you belong to your husband.

i don’t understand how it’s easy to ask a woman to change her last name, but a man would NEVER lose his identity like that.

it makes you wonder… are we brainwashed? (answer: yes) i’m not going to change my last name. hopefully my husband will, but if not we’ll have separate last names. no big deal.

Where are all the men answering this question? Of course it’s special you take his last name, but for the women who don’t care abour their last name, why should he care about his?

I am married.  I haven’t changed it yet.  Seems like too much work.  Plus, i’m really attached to my last name because it’s my dad’s and I only legally got his last name like 7 or 8 years ago.

I want to keep my last name professionally.  We might hyphenate for regular purposes, though.  Or we’ll both change our names so that my current last name is part of both of our middle names.  Somethings got to happen soon because I’m sick and tired of explaining to the post office that I can get my husbands package even though our last names don’t match.

My name is so cool tho.  My initials are (Run) DMC, or just (Washington) DC, and my first, middle, and last name all have 5 letters, which is my lucky number.  Plus, if you take my first initial/my nickname and say it with my last name it sounds like Decatur, that one city in Georgia.

i am never changing my name. im a feminist! 

I’m in science and once you start publishing under one name, you kinda should keep it. So, I’m guessing that since I’m not getting married in the next year or so, I”ll be keeping my last name.. at least for publishing purposes.

No, i’d never change my last name. And my kids are taking MY last name, not his. If my hypothetical husband doesn’t like being the only one with a different last name, he can just take my name as well.

As far as cohesive family name goes, why is it that your children’s last name should be your husband’s?  Why does it seem like it’s expected that the woman will change her name for a “cohesive” family name? 

My sister, cousin, and I have discussed this, especially this summer.  Even though we’re still pretty young, we’ve decided to keep our last name when we get married because we’re the last ones in our family to have the name and we wanna keep it going.  We want to at least pass the name on a little more, especially if we have sons.