There’s been a lot of posting lately about dressing one’s age, and each time I’ve ready one of these featured blogs, the same question has gone through my mind. Now I’d like to turn that question over to you, the Lovelyish ladies, to see what you all think.
I am 35 years old, and, due to a combination of being petite (I’ve five feet even), genetic good luck and religious use of sunscreen, I look a lot younger than I am (about a full ten years). Most people guess me to be between 23 and 28. When I tell them I’m 35, they look legitimately stunned…even the minister who married my fiance and I, asked my age at our first marriage prep session and when I told her, she kind of froze for a second and said “I never would have guessed”.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m very grateful to look young. In a culture obsessed with youth, I see this as a good thing. But, it does present one problem: dressing my age. And this is where I’d be interested in what others think. If I dress like a “typical 35-year-old”, I look like a young woman in frumpy clothes. If I dress like a 25-year-old, I just look like a 25-year-old. But is it appropriate? It bears mentioning that I wear a uniform at work, so my clothing choices don’t affect me where that’s concerned. I’m concerned with clothes that I’ll wear outside of work, on my free time.
So what do you say? Should someone in my shoes dress my chronological age, dress the age I appear to be, or something else entirely?

rose / 886 posts
I would say if you still got it, flaunt it! (within reason)
Be proud of what you have, there is no “uniform” way to dress that comes with age.
Wear whatever you think is cute, don’t worry so much about what everyone else thinks.
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Use what you have. If you feel like you can pull something off, go for it
daffodil / 1975 posts
Dress how you feel, not your age. If you can get away with it, do it! The trick is to dress for yourself, not someone else. Wear things that make you happy. There are no labels on things that say “Do not wear if you are over 25″.
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i think you should dress the way you want to. what are your tastes? who to do want to emulate? it really all comes down to what you feel comfortable in. what you think you look great in. since you look young, way younger for your age, i say you can probably get away with dressing younger. if you’re concerned about people saying you ought to dress your age–well, fukkem. and are you conversative? flamboyant? shy? artistic? as for me, i look younger for my age as well. but i’m not really into fashion (i’m just trying to help out here-teehee). i just wear what’s comfy and appropriate for a young mother. i’ve always been on the modest side. so i try to wear things that don’t show cleavage or buttcrack or underwear. gee, i don’t know if i helped at all. good luck.
daisy / 651 posts
@BellaGlam - agreed ! Don’t be afraid to flaunt your young features if you got em ! Show them off while you can :]
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@pawnshop_heart@xanga - hahaha–or this will blow up in 5 seconds.
daffodil / 1975 posts
@hilaw@xanga - That would be an awesome tag to see, though.
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@BellaGlam - Agreed
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i think a good way to say ‘dress your age’ is just ‘dress with what looks good’. for example, if you have stretch markes on your boobs and stomach from your kids, don’t wear a skimpy little string bikini. but, if you think you have the body for it… you can pretty much wear whatever you want. just, aim for a little more class.
sunflower / 420 posts
Dress inbetween, aka dress for 30.
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I don’t see how there would be much of a difference between 25 and 35 in terms of dressing. Whatever happens to looking nice in general, regardless of age?
Unless you think dressing like a 25 yr old is tank tops and jeans, dressing 25 should still look nice and decent.
rose / 960 posts
dress a hot, professional 25. problem solved
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@BellaGlam - Completely agreed!
Plus, it’s your body. Wear what you feel like wearing when you feel like wearing it. :]
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I think if you look like you’re in your mid to late 20s, then dress that way. I think the whole problem with dressing your age or not dressing your age is that people who tend to not dress their age appropriately look skanky. So don’t wear a tube top and a pair of jeans if it doesn’t look good on you, but dress appropriately for the situation.
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Dress how you would want to dress. But dont wear “mom” jeans. ’nuff said.
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I know that feeling! Except for a little gray which started around 28, I look the same at 36 that I did at 26. Well ok I am about 50lbs lighter now, thanks to my healthier eating. So, what should I be wearing? Can I still were the same jeans and t-shirts I had before *well in a smaller size*.
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Honestly just wear what you like. Who cares. Whatever fashion you want to don on makes you happier. If dressing like the others around the others make you happy than do it. Personally I don’t know how thirty years old dress but whatever is comfortable. It all comes down to the balance of what others think and what makes you happy. I know my comment probably didn’t help much but I hope it helps.
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I don’t know that there really is a big difference at all between the 20′s and 30′s as far as dressing goes. And don’t think it should really be an issue.
Teenager and 30′s is a different story.
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If you can pull off something, so be it.
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Wear what you can pull off now before you can’t anymore.
Just don’t become one of those 70 year olds that dress like they’re 20 something.
Saw one of them the other day…
Not pretty.
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Dress how you want to.
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haha i have the same problem… ppl would never guess
but u kno wat.. i wear wat i LOVE and whats comfortable!!!
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dress however the fuck you want.
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I think “dressing your age” means to dress appropriately for your lifestyle. If you are 35, a mother, a wife, and a professional it’s unbecoming of you to dress in mini skirts or midriff shirts, though it may be more appropriate for someone who is 18. Plenty of college aged and younger women will wear a mini with a cute top or a midriff shirt with jeans and not look slutty…but look young and immature. I think Stacy and Clinton say it best…”Dress for where you want to be, not for where you are.” So, if you want to be the corporate professional wife and mother that has it all together…what do you think she’d look like? If you were dressing like a professional wife and mother at 25…then sure…dress like you did when you were 25. However, if you were dressing like you just got out of your last class and are about to make some ramen noodles and study before happy hour…then perhaps not.
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@pawnshop_heart@xanga - ROFL. It would be funny if they did have those tags.
To the OP Like you, I look younger than I am. I just dress appropriately for my profession. I avoid things that teenagers would wear. For example you wouldn’t catch me wearing anything by VS Pink or obviously from stores marketed to teenagers. I’ll never wear “distressed” denim except in the house. Frumpy is something I will never be, but at the same time, I don’t want to look desperate and like I am trying to hold on to my youth through my clothes.
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you can start with wearing granny panties, fanny packs, waist high pants, and oversized shirts.
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I’m 22 and people say I look like I’m at least 16! Flaunt your beautiful young looks.Wear whatever you want to wear as long as YOU’RE comfortable! I’m personally happy in a cute top with nice jeans and converse.
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Try this website:
http://jakandjil.com/blog
lots of gorgeous ladies with basic black and also in colour.
daisy / 723 posts
In fact, I was one of those who made posts about age and clothes. My point was to see people’s opinion, and I was happy to learn that I have according to them, problem in my life, problem with my body image, mental illness or maturity problem (lol). In fact I don’t think so. But was funny.
But I think that we are free to choose, undepending on other’s opinion. We are who we are, and nobody have the right to judge us -or they can do it silently-. It’ a mark os strength to achieve to stay ourselves in this world of “fashion and social diktats”.
Dress with clothes you love, clothes you want, and be yourself !
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its not a bad thing to look younger
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Dress in whatever you feel comfortable in.
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Yup.I am there with ya. I actually had an officer’s wife tell me that I should stop shopping in the juniors dept and start shopping in the women’s dept…simply because I am older.WTF?! I wear a size 7 and I LIKE the stylr of clothes I wear.I don’t like the women’s dept.It makes me feel old and crabby. Slacks? Not unless I am at work,people!
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I just wouldn’t wear anything that looks like youre TRYING to be/ pickup younger people
e.g. abercrombie name plastered everywhere stuff.
sunflower / 337 posts
wear what you feel cofortable in. and well done you on the genetics front!
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I say go for it! Who cares what number age you are. Be tasteful and classy (if that’s your thing) and stop worrying about how old you are. Worrying gives you wrinkles.