I really enjoyed my day today. My mother and I spent hours shopping, something we haven’t done in a while because of conflicting work schedules. Her day, however, started off a little shaky.
We perused the racks of the Banana Republic Factory Outlet that she loves so much. She had enlisted me as her personal shopping assistant, and asked me to pick out whatever outfits I thought would look good on her, as long as the items were in a size 8.
I happily did my bidding, and thought being a personal shopper would be a very fun job to have. I found a few great pairs of dress slacks in black and a warm khaki color. I also found the most gorgeous wrap shirt I have ever seen. I grabbed them all and shuffled my mother into the fitting room.
I waited outside the door for a few minutes, and my mother still hadn’t emerged from the fitting room in all her new, high-fashion glory. I tapped on the door and asked if everything was okay. She opened it a crack, and when I saw the sullen look on her face, I asked what was wrong.
She didn’t tell me. She merely patted her midsection, where the trouser’s button remained open. Then, she pointed to all the spots at which the pants were pulling. Then, she attempted to button the pants one more time, though the attempt proved futile.
“Lauren, I can’t fit into a size 8,” she said. “I have been a size 8 since I had your brother. Am I really getting this fat?”
I wasn’t sure what to say. In all honesty, my mother has put on weight, but who doesn’t gain a pound as the years go by? I certainly have, and most people I know have, as well. It’s only natural.
Instead, I told her I’d be right back. I marched back to the rack and grabbed the next size up. When I got back, I shoved the pants into the fitting room and told her to try them on, whether she wanted to or not. The door closed. I heard her murmuring something about being “a disgusting size ten.”
Then, the door cracked open again. I looked at my mother in the gorgeous dark pants. No pulling and a fully buttoned fly– already, these pants were an improvement. I asked her to turn around, so I could get the full effect. In the process, she caught sight of herself in the mirror. She paused and stared for a second.
“My ass hasn’t looked this good in years!” She exclaimed, uninhibited and unnoticing of the other customers in the fitting rooms. ” I HAVE to get these.”
And she did.
Not because they were a size 8. Not because they were a size 10. She bought them because she looked good and felt good about herself in them. She felt HOT.
The most important thing about your clothes is the boost of confidence they give you, not the number on the tag. Don’t let the digits get you down.
How do you feel about clothing sizes? Can you get yourself to ignore the numbers?

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orchid / 217 posts
my clothing size….varies according to where i buy them
So I really don’t actually exactly KNOW what i am…..
dahlia / 2382 posts
Every maker has their own perception of a size so I dont let it bother me either. As long as they dont cut off my circulation, I’m happy.
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Sizes are stupid anyway. I wear a 0 in h2j and the limited. Bananna republic doesn’t fit me at all but yet I wear somewhere between a 3 or four at express. I even have a pair of sevens from the rave!
Sizes are o not standardized!
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aw i love that story
i always spaz out about the number on the tag, not a good way to be.
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i feel like people shouldnt care about the number they are just number i mean everybody gains weight no matter what and we should all be happy with what we have
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i don’t really care about sizes, since nothing seems to fit right anyway LOL
i vary across like 5 sizes!!
cherry blossom / 42 posts
I am glad that she loved those pants! I hate numbers. A lot of stores do not carry clothing that fits me. I am inbetween a 16 and an 18 usually. the former is to small usually, and the latter is to large. But I have come to love what looks good and not get caught up on what size is on the tag. I wish more more women could realize that the tag doesn’t matter-that what does is how you feel in the clothes. And for the record, size 10 is not bad AT ALL!
rose / 847 posts
In the past 2.5 years, since graduating high school and starting university, I’ve probably put on 30 lbs. In some brands (most often Urban Planet), I wear a 3. In the same brand, some are super tight and some have a lot of extra space. In other sizes (I noticed in the US at Steve & Barry’s), I was a 6 and the waist was too tight but everything else was way too loose.
Lately I’ve been shopping online for clothes coming from Asia, and by their standards, I’m probably pretty obese. I always have to take the L or XL or whatever their largest offered size is, and I’m lucky they offer it at all! Especially since their “plus size” section is so crappy. Their sizings are based on cm/inch measurements so I can sit here and measure myself; all their clothes have been true to measurement.
Either way, if I like it, it looks nice, and it fits, I’ll buy it and you’d better believe it makes me feel hot.
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Numbers suck.
sunflower / 382 posts
Mhm it’s a lot more comforting for guys cause we don’t have a “size ___” or that.
It’s just “Waist – 30″ and it fits. That and cause I’m a teen so all good…for now.
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Nope. Can’t ignore the clothing sizes, they just keep nagging and nagging.
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I think size is not that important as it varies.
I care the cutting most coz if it doesn’t fit me even it is in size 0 or 2 still meaningless.
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sometimes its hard for me to ignore the number on the size…. >.<
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I like this anecdote! (: You would be a great personal shopper, dear! All about the positivity.
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I’m ashamed of being a size 5.
magnolia / 1354 posts
aww, I love that story and am glad your mom loved those pants!
Numbers pretty much suck. They are terribly hard to ignore and a lot of times hard to find at certain stores. I’m a size 00-0 and many stores I like to shop in don’t carry those sizes often or a small quantity. I’ve only ever found jeans that look good on me from one store – Sirens. :)
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good story. but no, i can’t ignore the size, which is why i haven’t bought new clothes because i can’t stand to buy clothes in my size.
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Honestly, I don’t care. I care if I gain (and even if I lose! I don’t like to lose weight like that), but the size itself? Who cares as long as it fits the way that it should? And what is so disgusting about being a 10? I’ve been a 10 or 12 for a few years!… and besides, some things that are “designer” fit small. What is the big deal if you go up one size?? Now if you go up ten sizes, I could see a reason for concern.
you know, I kind of wish that women’s sizes were like men’s. That way, you have a waist band size, and there won’t be much variance between the 8 that you buy in JCPenny, and the 8 that you might buy in like… Armani Exchange or Banana Republic. That way, you don’t have to have a coronary because you don’t fit a size 8 there and think that you gained an “obscene” amount of weight. Your waist size will be what it is no matter where you go unless your waist expanded… and that’s it.
@Stalinn@xanga - why are you ashamed of it?
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Whatever fits fits. I have better things to worry about than what’s written on a tag.
dahlia / 2747 posts
hrm, i never bother with numbers, cuz they vary by style/brand a lot.
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the thing I keep in mind is that the sizes of clothing varies from brand to brand. a size 8 is bigger in one and smaller in another even though you don’t really gain weight.
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When I was younger it was hard to ignore clothing sizes, especially during middle and high school, when everyone judged you on what you wore, but after high school I stopped worrying about sizes, because I’d rather look good wearing a bigger size than to worry about ripping a smaller one. But when I was in Korea this summer it was really hard to go shopping, because everything was so small and the salespeople would size you up when you walk in.
sunflower / 484 posts
I hate sizes. I wear a size 2 some places and a size 8 others. I don’t care so much what the size is, if only I could have some consistency! But when you go for what fits and not what is the “right number” it can make you feel just that much better.
rose / 855 posts
Awww, such a sweet post! ^^
I really hate clothing sizes. REALLY. It seems like the XL and XXL at stores keep getting smaller. XXL look like the L’s of 5 years ago.
It’s depressing really. But I just avoid it altogether…..
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I fit between a size two and a size seven, so I just get what seems to fit…
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it’s nice to see a post about weight that people aren’t attacking for once. but for people that aren’t in traditional sizes, you can’t but let it get to you when you can’t find clothes at all….i’ve been trying to find work clothes and I can’t find anything.
daisy / 512 posts
yep, definitely go with what’s comfortable instead of what size you think you should be… as if they mean anything at all. in the usa they’re all inflated to make us feel better. a size zero here is like a six in asia
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that’s a good story aha. numbers shouldn’t matter to me… but still =/
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It depends where I shop
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i hate sizes. at my heaviest, i was a size 12/14. 14′s are “plus size” while 12s aren’t. pulling out a 14 instead of a 12 was a devastating experience as a 16 year old.
since then i’ve lost 20 pounds and now wear an 8 in some places, 6 some places, and 10 in others. and now, it doesn’t matter what the hell the tag says, as long as it fits me right. i wish i would have known that back then.
dahlia / 2942 posts
I look better in a size 5 than a size 0. It all just depends on how you carry yourself and how you let your clothes carry (the physical) you.
sunflower / 496 posts
Great pots.I have clothes in so many different sizes… I even buy clothes larger (like a tee to use it as a dress).
I’ve worked in clothes stores. I’ve seen so many women buy a size that were not the right one…
it’s just a number girls.
basically I have from french 34 to 42…
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Nice post : )
daisy / 723 posts
That can make me feeling bad, but I know that it depend on the brand , the shape and other many factors!
I’m a size XS, but when I buy a jacket, it’s often S or even M. And when it was for a jacket, no problem. BUt if one day I have to buy pants (so concerning my butt lol) in M, or more, I think I’ll feel so sad, bad.
In fact, I have clothes from size XXS (32 in France) to XL (around 44 frenhc size I guess). My pyjama is size 44, and I’m very good on it. Even If I were 34 in everyday clothes.
The solution is to sew clothes. No size wirtten on it , no depression ;D
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I’ve never been a size 8, and I’m perfectly okay with that. ^-^
I’m glad your mother realized that there’s a silver lining to every cloud. =D
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Clothing sizes are ridiculous anyhow. There really ISN’T a standard on what is a size 8 and what is a size 10, so the “old” size 8 could easily be the “new” size 10. Sucks and does nothing but make people feel bad about themselves. Ugh.
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@noree_n@xanga - Me neither.
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Not caring about the size on the clothes has definitly been something Ive learned not to care about….Being a size small and 4 was something I stuck to cause I felt if I had to go up a size then it was horrrible. But when I went shopping with my friends who i def thought were waaayy smaller then me got BIGGER sizes then me….and they still looked small….
after a couple more shopping trips with them i realized I could still go up a size and look small…..looking small and feeling great is not abt the number or letter on the clothing. that clothing doesnt make u small you exercising n eating right makes u small…lol
plus wearing sizes that are right for you def flatters you a lot better then trying to stuff ur ass in something too small for you and having the muffin top.
def good for your mom!!! im glad that turned out good for her.
cherry blossom / 35 posts
thank you! amen! skinny doesn’t equal hot, neither does curvy….being you is hot!
sunflower / 420 posts
I always ignore the numbers. It’s all about the fit baby
. I wear a size 9 or 11 proudly. Because I have an ASS.
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it gets to me
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This is a great post — I work for a women’s clothing vendor so I know for a fact that vanity sizing (and sizing across brands) is enough to make ANY woman — petite, plus, curvy, straight, etc. — feel a little crazed! Just like bra sizes, clothing sizes are just numbers (well bras are letters and numbers) that say “This one will make you look and feel good” not “You are now worth less/more as a person because you’re in this ##.”
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My size changes from shop to another
I’m not complaining unless <.< it got higher than the usual ;p
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Hmmm…I thought the clothes sizes were getting smaller but the clothes were getting bigger (for example: A formerly “size 12″ skirt is now a “size 10.” I say don’t be too particular about the number on the tag as long as it fits well. But that’s not to say that you shouldn’t try to eat well and exercise though.
orchid / 141 posts
That’s fabulous – good for her!
People don’t realize that size varies from brand to brand, even from style to style within the brand, so it’s always best to shop around. Clothing manufacturers tend to cut their clothes small nowadays anyway, and anyone with a dress size larger that a 12 is considered plus sized (although the average American woman is a 14).
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Great post!!
A habit of mine is buying shirts which are “too” big
I’ve stopped looking at the numbers when getting trousers, though. What’s the point in stuffing yourself in something that doesn’t fit and make you look like a salami when you can look good in something a size bigger?
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I try to ignore sizes but I can’t.
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what pisses me off is a lot of mainstream stores have made say a size 8 much bigger. like J crew I swear I’m a 4 and generally I’m a six after I lost a little bit.
The thing is everyone has sized up differently. Express? still a six. Six from 6 crew? huge. I mean totally different, which is very annoying since I try to look for deals online since I can’t afford to spend tons of time in stores.
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This was an encouragement for me. Thanks for brightening my morning!!
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Aww :3.
I love shopping, but sometimes the numbers get me down abit.
magnolia / 1030 posts
this is a great anecdote!! =]
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Thanks for sharing this. I have a friend who would rather purchase a medium rather than a large, when the large almost ALWAYS looks more flattering and makes her body shape look more appealing. I absolutely do not understand this. I have had sale’s associates want me to purchase a size 0 in dresses because I don’t have much of a top, but I feel like a sausage in them! I’m typically a size 2 or 4… Today, I bought a shirt that was size 12 just because I like that I could wear it as a short dress. Clothes don’t always have to be worn the way they are on the manikin and woman definitely don’t have to be the size they are “supposed to be.” I also like what the_tudor_rose wrote… becuse if you do stick to a number throughout at every store… you just might end up feeling like crap.
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don’t stress over them, I honestly don’t care lol cuz they vary by brand or where I’m buying it from. Sometimes, I fit into a small in one store, and then a medium in another. All just varies.
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Are you encouraging fat people?
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I never much paid attention to sizes – if something caught my eye, I’d eyeball it for general dimensions, then try it on for fit. One time, wandering through one of my closets [don't ask why the noun is plural], I noticed a size “13″, a size “8″, a size “7 Alto”, a size “10 Talla”, “9 BbI” and “14 Minces” or somesuch…different clothiers have different sizes. My inseam is at 33″. My waist is at 31″. My hips at widest part are at 36″. I thought I was a mutant.
I gave up on “sizes” years ago, I guess, and look for what feels comfortable. Great post!
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Shopping for clothing usually ends up with me crying in a dressing room. It’s horrible.
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i definitely don’t care about the number. people can tell that i’m in good shape and the size really doesn’t matter.
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Don’t most sizes vary a little by brand?
tulip / 17 posts
I used to let sizes get ,me down but, then I grew up . You make make the clothes ! I eat right except the weekends
. I teach fitness classes three times a week and I dont abuse my body therefore, I feel good about myself , I love the skin im in .no matter the size.
daisy / 571 posts
it’s hard for me to ignore clothing sized >.<
& it’s really hard for me to find a decent shirt that fits me,
or pants,
it’s all so depressing;
BUT, i still try and ignore it.
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@C0upDeGrace@xanga - ditto, I think the story is great but I refuse to go double digits in pants, I work out way too much for that.
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@Stalinn@xanga - But why?
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@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - Some women who are size 8/10 aren’t necessarily fat…
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I hate the sizing systems most stores have.
When I’m putting clothes away, I can’t believe that some of the shirts I own say ‘XXL’ when they look like they’re a medium. It’s crazy.
Who fits in a “small” now anyway?
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I try to not look at the size. How it fits it better than the number it says.
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my clothing size varies. I get disappointed when I always have to go up a size, even if I’ve actually lost weight. >.< sigh. I hate clothes shopping…