Lovelyish

I wish someone would say that to me. Instead, I’m always called a stick.

I have a HUGE bum. Well… OKAY. Maybe not HUGE, but it is very plump. My ex boyfriend LOVED it, I mean it. He admired it. He wanted to build a shrine on it so he could worship it. I love my butt. It’s sexy.

LOL! I’m a butt-girl too, but my mom recently told me that I lost my butt… (I haven’t exercised in 2 years or so). My relatives used to slap and pinch my buttcheeks all the time as I grew up, and my friends keep saying I have a gigantic ass. =.=

I don’t mind though. Because I have small boobs (or rather, I have the lack of boobs), I’m proud to have a butt. Better than nothing, right? XD

eugh. last time someone said that to me, the whole childbearing hips thing, i seriously thought about punching that someone in the face.
i mean really. I KNOW.
it’s not like oh my god, i have a huge ass?! when did this happen?!

saying i have a big butt is like saying, you know that people breathe?

I, too, have heard the “childbearing hips” comments. Buuut I think my disproportionally big booty is my greatest asset! 

@Mangonese@xanga - me too

I was told at the age of 15 that I had childbearing hips. Talk about creating self esteem issues! I was so aware of my image after that. I wore the darkest wash jeans that I could find that fit, trying to minimize my “flaws.” I always had trouble finding jeans/pants that would fit my hips/thighs/butt that wouldn’t create a huge gap at my waist. Ten years and one baby later, I have come to love my curves. I also learned that men love curves too, this isn’t something they tell you as a teenager. I used to want to change everything about my body, but I learned how to be okay with myself. Now my 13 year old cousin is dealing with the same issues, we call it “the family curse” for the ladies in the family, so I try everything I can to boost her self esteem. I certainly remember how hard it was for me in school. 

Aw, I’m glad you’re confident with your body!

My mom said something like that … how my hips were good for giving birth or something o_O hahah my legs are okay. I’d like them to be skinnier. When I gain weight, it usually goes right down to my thighs and stomach >.>

I’m no J-Lo but everyone tells me I have a big butt too. I’ve never gotten any comments about my hips or thighs, but having a big butt has affected my waist size [for the worse]. Really though, what can you do? *shrug*

ohh i hear you! hahah

i’ve had the hips and ass since like seventh grade ugh!!

alot of people think i’m older then i am and i have had the same ” you have child bearing hips” comment also. i am also part italian, and i’ve come to just except it.

i feel like all i need to do is keep everything toned and get my tummy flatter and i’ll have a good body. i would hate to have a ruler figure like somegirls and am happy i have curves becasue that is what women are supposed to have!

I come from a big family and my sisters all have several children, recently a local farmer who is a neighbor said I came from good breeding stock and invited me to marry his son because I would make a “good breeder”…. LOL he was talking about my genetics not my body though. It made me feel like women were cattle to him……  still it was a pretty hysterical if insulting comment….

i have a big butt too (well, for an asian, anyway), and i never really cared until my then-crush, now bf mentioned that he liked big butts, haha. that gave me a clue!

I wish I had a nice ass…
mine’s pretty much non existant

Yeah, I have no ass. My sisters make fun of me for it all the time.

I’m small but I have a booty and I love it!!

I’ll trade you! I have no butt, plenty of cleavage though.. How genetics decided I needed double-D’s and a size 3 bottom, I’ll never understand. I hate it But hey, what can you do but live with it?

I wish I could turn my insecurities into points of confidence. My SO says that the things I am most insecure about are what he finds to be my most attractive features. Good for you for turning that around!!

haha! before i had my son i had a bubble butt huge boobs and curves. AFTER my son my boobs went down to c’s and my butt went down a little and my curves were even more noticable. My daughter is 3 months. My butt went down even more but now fits in the same size jeans as my hips, my curves are sexy as hell but i still have DD’s???

I’ve learned that my body will only change for the beter, as long as i take it all as a positive. Even with a little bit extra in the tummy from my daughter i feel sexy everywhere else. My husband dosent complaine either.

@xSoMaganda@xanga - same for me

I’ve been told I have child-bearing hips too.  Sometimes it still bothers me how big my bottom half is.  I wish I could be as confident as you!

Awww I WISH I had bigger hips!! So feminine and curvy…you’re lucky and beautiful!! Don’t listen to people when they comment on it, people feel the need to comment on everything about a persons appearance. Good for you for having confidence

I, too, get the child-bearing hips comment quite often. I live in the Appalachia area, and on more than one occasion a friend or family member has told me not to get lost. Why? Because some of the bfe hillbillies will kidnap me to bring new genes into their pool.

But, the boy is a big fan of the curves, so it works out.

I have no butt.

And I’m only here b/c I thought you were going to say you hate having “childbearing hips”, which you did but then you loved it which was completely unexpected but EXCELLENT that you’ve found yourself loving your body at the end.

(:

I don’t have much curves .

when i was younger, i used to hate my body, my waist was too small, my butt and hip was too big and then when i was a teenager, i started to have boobs.  i was a mess because i didn’t know what to do with them until i was older and realizing that if i didn’t love me, no one would.  i think we all have insecurities about our bodies, even when you’re stick thin, you’re gonna wish your body was different too.  

I have a really large bum for my size. I have buy at least one size up to fit my huge bum and I love it! My boyfriend loves it too and some clothes look really awesome on a “pear” shaped body.

i like the message of this post but i just gotta say that i also loved it when you wrote: “God made me this way! He made my butt!”

XD priceless

I have hips.  and yeah I’m DAMN proud. Every time I walk past one of those asian girls that weighs 105 lbs but is shaped like a rectangle, I secretly feel like more of a woman. a sexy woman. 

I can’t help it. I like being asian because it makes me feel more exotic and unique in the U.S., but I also like that I have more hips than most asian girls, and my hair is naturally wavy instead of being thin and impossibly straight.

Anyways, I think the wider a girl’s/woman’s hips are (as long as they’re not unhuman) the hotter she looks. Of course, this can go wrong really easily if she’s somewhat overweight or not exercised; then it just looks like a big piece of fat going sideways. >.< Eh well…ups and downs.

I have to get a size up because of my butt. Im not crazy about it because i dont like the fact i have to wear a size 7 stretch to be able to feel comfy in jeans ugh it sucks. when i lost alot of weight before i gave birth to my third child i was in a size 3 and i had lost my butt and i actually liked it.

My husband LOOOOVES my butt he is a butt man and everyday he always comments on it. just the other day i was in our bathroom and he came in and took his hands and started on my waist and just rubbed his hands all the way done because my curves are just perfect. I have a small waist and wide hips and big butt and thick thighs so im good in all the right places lol I dont complain to much about it tho even tho i would love to lose some weight in my thighs but other then that im good and happy with my body.

wow i think you just wrote down my thoughts, word for word.

im short, yet i have a huge booty. i am lucky that i DO have a really skinny body (like tummy and everything else) just my butt and thys are super gigantic! one day @ the mall i bought two pairs of pants. one was a size 2 the other was a size 9! 7 sizes difference! i usually run around a five, a three if im lucky so im super frustrated. after school is finished, im hitting the gym hardcore to loose those extra lbs on my butt and thys. i agree when u say that god gave u that body so u shud enjoy it. well i love mine, its just needs some upgrades right now. i would be completely happy just to loose about 10 or 12 pounds because im a short girl and i weigh around 125. i have a great body and i want to be able to flanut it!

I, too, have childbearing hips. So…yay when I have a kid like 10 years down the road?

I believe there is nothing more beautiful than a woman with big, “childbearing” hips. It’s the most feminine thing about a woman; having great hips is a gift than one can’t fake.

i can totally relate to it. i’ve always had a large butt and thighs in proportion to the rest of me. i wear medium-sized (junior) shirts, yet borderline plus-sized pants..makes no sense! i workout and workout and my butt remains big as ever. i too have had to endure many comments about my shape. some have told me i need to drop weight, but more often than not guys tend to like my shape (sometimes unwelcome liking though!). still, i will feel insecure about it always i think. these dang “child-bearing hips” (ugghh i hate that phrase– what if i don’t want children? what do i need them for then? lol) will ensure i will never fit into jeans normally ever. still, they are mine, and all the women in my family have them, so at least i’m not alone in it.

haha I can relate as well.  I hear that a lot, You have childbearing hips.  I have the hourglass figure for sure, somewhat more athletic since I started working out in 07 regularly and intensely.  Anyways, I love to buy jeans at stores like Aeropostale because they are so cheap…but then of course, its Juniors sizes so its usually larger than I would buy in woman’s clothes and on top of it, I always always need a belt because they fit good around the hips and thighs, but are huge on the waist.  Gotta love being curvy though…even though clothes are not always designed for it, I would not change it for anything!

big butt, wide hips, yet really narrow everywhere else. How did it happen?! I look like some freaky Alan Lee drawing sometimes… But, i definitely share your frustration with the pants that never fit right. ( >.<)

I’ve taken to long skirts and self-performed hem adjustments on leggings.

its a known asian thing, when you have a big butt your supposed to have an easy birth cause it makes the pushing a littler easier.  although if you have a c-section you wouldnt need a big butt.

i’m the same way! big hips, butt (can’t believe i said that), and thigh. i’ve always hated it, more so the thighs though. when i realized my thighs were big (around sophomore yr of HS), i did the same thing and stopped wearin shorts and wore nothing but jeans. however, i’m so glad i found someone who loves my thighs for me, so now i’m not so conscious about it. however, i still do hide them. when i buy bathing suits, it’d have to be like boy shorts or something w/ a skirt attached to them. i don’t really wear dresses or skirts that are shorter than my knees either

haha. A black girl once told me, “You curvy for a white girl!”
I definitely have the big booty down pat.

In fact, I found out that I have Jennifer Lopez’s exact measurements (only an inch smaller on each measurement). Weird … but cool!

But anyway. I like my butt when it’s in pants, but I’m embarrassed when it’s not. I have quite a bit of cellulite.
And I find that my butt attracts the attention of black guys more than I’d like it to. It can get pretty annoying. For the most part, though, I enjoy my curves.

And I totally feel ya when it comes to pants shopping. It’s so frustrating!! I’ll find something that fits me in the butt (usually a size 7), but then the waistband is too wide. The ONLY place I shop for pants nowadays is Wet Seal. A low-rise, stretchy, “7 short” is my perfect size!

for an asian girl, i supposedly have a huge ass. it gets slapped and touched all the time. >.< lol

OMG I WAS TOLD THE SAME THING! It pissed me off.

well, it’s nicer than being told that you were first in line for a c section if i ever was to have a child
yes someone told me that.

I don’t have a big butt or anything, but I’ve been told I have childbearing hips. Which makes me a little self-conscious about having wide hips, but I figure the rest of my body is proportional enough that I can be okay, but being 5’10 makes me feel huge anyways, even though I only weigh about 143. 

i have neither, but i’m happy with my body :] 

I have a huge butt too:)  My friends are always slapping it or making some remark about its enormity.  They call it my “assmosphere” and they say it has a “gravitational pull” (hence the slapping).  It’s actually proportionate to my size according to size charts, but that’s only because I have relatively narrow hips and a huge ass.  At one point in my life – elementary school, haha – I was pretty self conscious about it.  But now I love it.  I mean, I have curves!  I’m supposed to!  The only thing I could work on is some tone, because you know, it’s all fat back there.  No muscle.  It was once muscle, but then I quit horseback riding and playing soccer… anyway, I’m glad you’re proud of your well-endowed rear end.  My main trouble is the jeans thing; sometimes it’s hard to squeeze them over my hips.  But Gap Curvy fit jeans fit perfectly. 

And I know what you mean about the thighs.  I would wear shorter shorts if they didn’t ride up all over the place because my thighs rub together.  As it is, I have one favorite pair of relatively short shorts (Gap again) and most of the others are Bermudas, which are more flattering to me anyway and more comfortable to walk around in.  (My favorites are from Banana Republic.) 

i don’t have any problems with my body, but i’ve always been really tall and really thin. and i’ve always wished to have a nice, big butt. my sisters and mom all have big “childbearing” hips and butts. i’m super jealous now that i’m pregnant, and i don’t have much hip at all. haha.
don’t get me wrong, i like my body, i just sometimes think it’d be nice to have a little bit of a butt…haha.

I feeel ya.

I’ve always been told that i have ‘baby makin’ hips,

but i’ve never thought of it as a bad thing.

I actually think they compliment my waist. Sometimes i feel a little too curvy, or thick. But i would rather be this way than being skinny.

I particularly hate the “childbearing hips” comment because it makes it seem like having kids is supposed to be my #1 role in life. I usually like to respond, “Yeah well, I plan to adopt.” It’s hard to find jeans and skirts that fit well, but I don’t mind because I like it better than being flat.

I really wish I would have a nice ass, too. My hips are non-existant so I just CAN’T have umm bigger ass. =__= ‘

i’ve got a bit of a booty. i used to feel insecure about my “child bearing hips” and booty, but after embracing my curves i felt this new found confidence i never knew existed. (:

I actually have the same exact problem!

Seriously, it is REALLY frustrating to find pants, when everything is made for girls with thin legs. Especially now with the whole “skinny jeans” thing…I am embarrassed to wear them because of how my thighs are! It’s not that I haven’t tried to correct the problem…I am not overweight at all, its just my genetics!

A word of advice, heels do WONDERFUL things.

Im glad there is someone else who has to deal with this struggle lol

You are right – some women would love to have a butt. I have seen “rear-enhancing” jeans from Victoria’s Secret catalog. Its funny to me, but then again, padded bras are very common. I am a petite person ( I wear size 0 or 2), and my butt is not a JLo booty but it’s definitely there and I am glad I do not have a flat @$$! Be glad that you don’t either ^_^

I didn’t have an ass until I worked a receptionist job for about 9 months. All my life I’ve mainly just been stomach, now I’m boobs, stomach, ass, and legs. It’s exhausting to find clothes, so I struggle with buying pants and now in the summer I’m just wearing sun dresses.

Yeah I totally feel you, shopping for clothes is frustrating because it’s like they’re not constructed with curves in mind!!  I have a tiny waist/upper body and a big tush so my pants/skirts are always hanging on my hips cuz they don’t fit me at the waist!!!  Never mind dresses!!  Aaahhh!!  I guess the only solution is alterations!  BUT this is the only frustration in this- I’m proud of my body and I love it, I always have!!!  My curves are one of the best things about being Latina and my cola is like a family trademark haha!!  =)

guys have said that for an asian, i have big butts. not enormous. just nice. LOL. but erms because of it i have HUGE thighs. and it annoys me because i now have to get bigger sizes and it freaks me out :[

im really underweight but i carry all the fat i DO have in my ass and it drives me nuts.

I laughed as soon as I read the title to your post=D I’ve heard the same thing a few times myself:> 

I was raised by a skinny-legged mother who got a really curvy daughter (got it from my dad’s mom) and even though she and a few other people gave me crap about it, eventually I got over it with enough confidence to make her shush up and make my ass-less (poor things) friends pretty jealous! …They still call my behind “Titanic” though, lol.

If you start doubting yourself, just think: eva mendes-kim kardashian-j Lo – there’s a reason why they’re famous;> Great post.

that’s a terrible comment lmao.

i have a huge ass. and guess what? i love it … =) i def. applaud you for being comfortable with your own body that’s great. my boyfriend likes my apple bottom haha

I have baby bearin’ hips too, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I love my curves and my fabulous ass. 

I think curvy hips are so sexy! I feel the same way though, or rather, felt the same way. Since I was 12 I have NOT worn shorts. I recently did wear some swim trunks to go swimming, but that is the extent of it. I even went to the beach and into the ocean in JEANS. 

lol im the same way. im trying to make my legs slightly less noticeable. not only are my thighs big, but long. its….odd.

i’m korean. and koreans usually don’t have childbearing hips.
my own mom, she had to get surgery in order to have me and my siblings
because she had tiny hips.
i inherited her narrow hips (which really bothers me because id rather have some curves and my shoulders look broader than my hips which makes me look like i dont have a womanly figure) but THANK GOD i didnt inherit her butt.
i actually have a butt…it’s not jlo’s but it’s definitely there and round.
but you know, i wish my hips and butt were bigger.
as an artist, it just looks more attractive to me because thats the blessing of a woman’s body.
curves.

I always thought Child Bearing Hips was a good term. Ya know, having children is apart of life and its really good to have hips that can do the job. our purpose as women is to give birth.

i’m half italian!
i have the same problem
as i was reading, i was just going down the blog nodding my head because i know exactly what you mean!
i’ve always seen it as a bad thing but boyfriends have always complimented me on it :S
my waist is tiny too so it all seems silly to me!

@alayshaj@xanga - @cutie_joyce@xanga - 
haha okay so my bio teacher told me that having big hips has nothing to do with the ease of child birth. it depends on the way your pelvis is shaped and spaced. weird right?
and get this: during child birth the pelvis rotates so you can actually have the baby!

i always said i had child bearing hips in hopes of childbirth being easy. too bad for me it doesn’t matter

okay, you are AMAZING.

i hear girls with no butts say things like, ‘omg, im so glad i have no butt, look at hers its so biiiig….’

they are SO jealous of people like us. so jealous.

i have a big butt too, except its more of, o well, its there. better make the best of it.
my bikini is a small top and large bottom. its…an interesting problem.

this is great! i can relate to some of your stories. the shopping experiences especially. i don’t have much of an ass but the thighs and hips, absolutely. it’s funny- just yesterday my close friend said to me, “you know… you have great childbearing hips!” i was flattered. :]

i’m a small in tops and large in bikini bottoms… maybe i do have a butt??!? i was led to believe my whole life that i was damned with my fathers plumber crack!! hahaha

We’re like twins! I’m sure there are dozens of people here claiming the same thing. I’m known for my bubbly butt at my dance studio. When I was thirteen and everyone in my acro (flipping) class got names like “Firecracker” and “Wonder Woman” for their amazing tricks, I got “Bootylicious.” I’ve got the whole junk-in-the-trunk & everything else down there too. While I still hate my thighs, I love my ass & my hips give me a different look. It’s best to embrace what you have, because you can’t change it…and it can be HOT! Embrace your curves, there are girls who would love to have what you have.

fuck? are yo serious? thats a compliment to one girl to another

my friend proudly says “yeah I have childbearing hips”

and she struts it

dont see it that way you know it wasnt bad or trying to bring back flashbacks about your “childhood”

strut it with confidence

I started noticing my larger hips at that age too! Me and my friends used to be able to share chairs and bus seats, but once puberty hit me, that was no more, and I couldn’t fit my ass in with their tiny ones.
I don’t usually think of it as a big deal. I mean, yea, it’d be nice to have a bikini body but at least boys have something to hang onto (as my mom always puts it). I think the worst part is when my friends whine to me about how huge they are wearing size 6 pants. I usually tell them to shut up because I wear 13s. And, yes, I could lose a little weight. That comes as a result of my sitting around all the time and then eating unhealthily. But I know that even if I did work out all the time and ate better it would only result in maybe some fat loss. But my hips, and my butt, would be no smaller.

I can so relate to you but no one has ever told me that I have childbearing hips. They just tell me I have a big ass. I hate my ass, I’m glad that you love yours. I am still trying to love my booty but when it comes down to my jean size, I get irritated because I have to always wear a belt >_<

On the other hand, my boyfriend loves my ass which I really don’t understand why.

I’ve been told I have childbearing hips too! It runs on my dad’s side of the family. I’m satisfied with mine. I just hope that after having children, my hips don’t get as big as some of my aunts’! A couple of them look awkward in pants and have resorted to wearing only skirts and dresses now.

The people that know me know to NEVER tell me that…

I’m 14, the last thing I want to hear from my mom is that comment… Plus a few others D;

I love you.  I respect you.  Gung ho to you.  You’re awesome.

How do I make mine bigger? D:

i act embarassed when someone comments on the size of my butt, but secretly, i like it. haha

i too have a huge ass. actually that’s an exageration. but for someone of my size, it’s pretty big. i was trying on a dress one day at the mall and my cousin had the gall to tell me i had a big butt (she’s a little on the heavy side). not that i didn’t know it was big before that. but like you, what i hate are my hips. it is very difficult to buy bottoms. i have to do a little dance to get them around my huge hips. and then i get that little “pocket” in the back from the waistband. it’s quite annoying. and the term “child bearing hips?” i still don’t fully understand what that means. but you shouldn’t tell anyone they have that lol. 

I have 45 inch hips and a 30 inch waist, and I am very happy with my pear figure

I’m not Italian, but I am black. I get so tired of seeing white women and other non-black/latino women COMPLAINING about their large bum! Why?? It’s beautiful! Flaunt it. If I have to pick up another Vogue magazine and hear them give tips on how to decrease the size of your bum, I’m going to scream. I’m glad to see you have put a positive spin on it.

haha, we could start a club.  I´m built the same, but my hubby loves my ass.

But with the shorts….yeah I know how you feel.
Once I went down 120 pounds to try and see if my hips would shrink, but no, that´s just the way they are.
I´m glad to hear your style and confidence improved.

I can’t relate, I’ve always been slender. But I do have friends who are like that and it looks good on them.

Yeah me too.  The women in my family are petite so all our fat goes to our ass and stomach.  It really sucks but I can’t change that.  This is how Allah (Subhanan wa ta’ala) made me and I accept that.  No I’ve never had people make comments to me about my body (minus when I got accused of being pregnant at 14 in 7th grade)! 

I’m pretty ridiculously curvy.
I’ve got a lot of ass.

I’m somewhere in-between pear-shaped and hourglass. I used to hate my thighs and hips, but I love them now because they make me look sexy and womanly. I’ve worked to get past my body issues and I don’t ever want to be stick-thin. My partner loves my body and guys & girls seem to find me attractive. I don’t necessarily think that I’m gorgeous or anything, but I’m happy that other people see me that way.

Besides, two words: Sophia Loren.

love yourself
in the Asian culture, you’d be praised for childbearing hips ^___^

You go girl! Be proud of it! This makes me think of Ms. New Booty by Bubba Sparxxx. There are men that OBVIOUSLY love the butt. Shoot, those girls were just hating because they didn’t have one

@RunAwayCOW@xanga - AMEN! I wish I had a little more in the back myself…

I stopped wearing shorts in middle school, too.  Same reason.  I was sitting at my desk and looked down and all I could see were my fat hips spreading across the seat.  I now weigh the same as I did then, with several more inches of height, and could probably wear shorts again.  But… I just don’t want to now.

I have large hips.  It makes finding pants that fit really hard.  My waist is several sizes smaller than my hips, so even low cut jeans that fit my butt are too loose around the waistband.  The best I have right now are the brand Tyte.  Found them at Ross, and love them so much I’d wear them every day if I could.

According to urbandictionary.com, I have a badonkadonk … yes, my butt is such a frequent topic of discussion that my friend looked it up. I got every female curve imaginable at age 9 to 10, but I didn’t really notice that my butt was “big” (I was too distressed by the fact that my boobs were bigger than everyone’s) until a dress-down day (a private schooler term for a day when we don’t have to wear uniforms) when I was 13 and I wore these limited too khaki pants, the only pants that would fit me in the juniors section since I was 11, and my friend told me I should probably put on my sweater because my butt looked huge in my pants … then another day recently after that she noticed the back of my uniform skirt went up higher than everyone elses due to my butt … and I hated it ever since. So I’m totally feelin you on the shorts rebellion and the early age girl! No guy liked me all through middle and almost all high school because they thought I was fat because I had boobs, a butt, and thighs.

The first time I started to accept that it’s not too bad is my senior year when I met my close guy friend (possibly more but that’s a long story), and he was the first guy to make a comment about my butt to my face. I was so upset. And then he gave me this goofy grin and said “I didn’t say it was a bad thing … ” So, they still aren’t my favorite, but that was a point in my life where I found out it didn’t make me unattractive like I’d always thought.

And let me tell you, Beyonce’s Dereon jeans are also a pretty big life changer! Thanks for this great post

@ThisBrightLight@xanga - Your friends’ comments are so much like mine it’s scary … my friend told me I have a lot of ass-mass and that my butt has its own gravitational pull too!

brings back bad memories DX

id think i’d rather have that problem than my own haha. i have a size 6 waist and 0 hips! weird right? it creates these massive love handles just above my hips. real awesome. but whatever, i guess we should all just appreciate what we have!

i have a HUGE butt too.

haha my friends call it “the butt”

i’ve had a giant butt for as long as i can remember-

i distinctly remember my aunt pinching my butt cheek and exclaiming “wow! you have such a perky bottom!” when i was three  -.-

but i have boobs too so i guess it balances out.

I can relate to you because I am not skinny but it appears that way, but I am think in the thighs and butt. I guess it get it from my Momma. I’m short and once tried to shop in the little girls’ department but my thighs would not fit.