I was at my friend’s Sweet Sixteen last night. I had helped her with her makeup and such while she was getting ready, so I was in the early crowd of arriving at the party. I wore my favorite dress, my leopard print one, with a layered black and clear necklace and black rhinestone heels, and received many compliments.
I strongly believe in attempting to look your best when you go out, but without being fussy once you arrive. Sure, a bathroom run or two to glance in the mirror are okay. But,
if your hair is a little messier than when you arrived, give it a quick touch-up or just let it go! You don’t need to look perfect at a party. You just want to appear as if you are having a good time!
The DJ was ready to go, and the birthday girl loves to dance. She was dancing alone without any inhibition (she even told me that she dances to the music in her head in a grocery store). While I don’t dance in grocery stores, I’m all for getting out on the dance floor at a party.
I don’t take credit for being a good dancer, but I went with moves that wouldn’t make me look like too much of a dork. At first, the two of us were the only ones dancing on the floor. Eventually a few other girls decided to join us, and groups were formed. Half were full-out dancers and the others were half-hearted and a little insecure.
I always say, “Don’t be afraid to look a little dorky! You came here to party so you might as well dance!” I find it extremely important to show up to a party with the right mindset.
I know I wasn’t the prettiest girl on the floor. (I give the credit to the birthday girl!). I certainly wasn’t the best dancer. But you know what? I was one of the few who was ready to have a good time, no questions asked! I really believe that confidence is something that makes you beautiful, even if your hair is a little frizzy from dancing for a long time or your eyeliner isn’t in the same place that it was a few hours ago.
What kind of girl are you at a party? Do you believe that confidence makes a girl appear more beautiful?
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Lol, I’m the type of girl that probably won’t dance unless you drag me to the dance floor. I usually hang around my circle of friends… which is good and bad because there really is no socializing with other people.
I think confidence does have a hand in making the girl appear beautiful but it also helps her FEEL beautiful. Sure, I don’t normally just run up to the dance floor and start dancing, but when I do go, I feel pretty damn confident afterward.
hydrangea / 72 posts
Yess attitude. To a certain degree. After that point, the girl just turns arrogant and b*tchy. =X
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I am always a little more conservative when it comes to getting crazy at parties but I’m always up for some good clean fun! As long as the dancing is appropriate and not too nasty then dude I’m all for it =D
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what kind of girl am i at a party?
lol, vegas rules. what happens there, stays there. x]
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I am SUCH a dork at the dance clubs, and I can HONESTLY say I don’t mind at all. I do think confidence makes the girl. Yes, look your best, but be yourself!! Fun and laughter is contagious. Who cares what everyone else thinks? Chances are you won’t be around those same people in 10 years anyway. It’s all about having a good time and being yourself.
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confidence is very attractive. and this may take many forms–one of which is dancing even though you feel you aren’t the best dancer. the other extreme is someone who is confident that they don’t have to attract attention by behaving a certain way, who may be stoic and is content with watching and still have fun.
cherry blossom / 49 posts
Confidence does wonders for a girl, it’s true.
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Yes, I believe that confidence makes a girl more beautiful.
Usually in a party, I DJ.
rose / 948 posts
most likely :] definitely!
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ahah even just hearing this entry makes me envy you and your confidence.
but yes. i’ll say i’m a girl of confidence. maybe not to be the first one out on the floor, but i definitely won’t let my night go to waste! i don’t get myself readied up for 2 hours and then come in with hunched shoulders to go towards the wall. i’ve learned to love myself. to look in the mirror and point “yo, arianne, you be lookin’ on fiiiire!”
because i deserve it.
i believe confidence does make a girl beautiful. aslong as its not cocky and looking down on others. i think a girls got to learn to be comfortable in her own skin and learn to truly love herself, and when that happens, a girl glows and becomes radiant.
daisy / 742 posts
Confidence is sexaaay
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Confidence is sexy.
Most definitely
But “Modesty is Beautiful.”
A bit of both is good.
magnolia / 1030 posts
i agree
only im the insecure awkward girl. i dont quite know how to dance. wish i did. and wish i was confident enough to dance
but if u think about it, modern dance floor dancing is not dancing at all. its either
1) grinding aka vertical sex
2) jumping up and down with ur hands in the air or in front of you
not dancing if you ask me
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I dance because it is fun and it makes me feel free and just great. And yes, confidence does make the girl :]
dahlia / 2942 posts
There was an earlier post about that guy at an 80s party going all-out and dancing by himself. Confidence is sexy! (Arrogance is not.)
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Definitely. It could be my mantra, but I probably shouldn’t claim it. Copyright laws?? Hahah, just kidding.
Being confident, even if you don’t feel that way, makes other people think of you as that attractive, mysterious person. It could be called an illusion, or maybe some kind of mental influence. I don’t know, haha. Now I’m just making up phrases.
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i am at my least confident on the dance floor hahah
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I like to be the life of the party …. especially after a few drinks… but I am pretty confident. When I go out to parties and such with my boyfriend I always want to look my absolute best and always come to have a fun time. Of course there will always be one girl who is gonna either compete with you or talk about you but that’s when you know you’re doing good… Going out to have a fun time is sexy…. just like confidence… It makes you the highlight of the room and although you may get a little envied…. you’ll get remembered and recieve alot of positive attention!!! Plus if you;re single… fellas will be watching… actually relationship statuses don’t really apply… they’ll look anyways… haha
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definitely, yes
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I whole heartedly agree.
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at a party, I’m the one dancing.
I’m confident with dancing at a party so (not to sound cocky) it looks better than a girl who’s being self conscious
I totally agree with your blog – confidence is the key!
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I have to be dragged onto the dancefloor, but after that i’m finefinefine about it
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I’d be in the corner just watchin’ everyone. I’d kill for some confidence. I’m hoping my day will come some day. My mom told me she was just as shy and backward at my age, but eventually she broke out of her shell.
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I’ll dance if I’m feelin it enough. : )
And yes, confidence definitely does boost the attractive meter!
daisy / 613 posts
Damn. I’m first girl on the floor and the last to leave. I love to dance! But only when I’m around my friends.
I’m I don’t know ANYONE there, then I’m usually a lot more shy… It’s kind of weird.
sunflower / 496 posts
I totally agree and i love this post…
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I definitely do think confidence a huge difference. I was put in weird situation when my boyfriend said that a girl he works with rated me a 9 out of 10. When asked what would make me a ten this girl said that if I was just a bit more confident in myself I’s easily get that extra point.
orchid / 140 posts
i’m a wallflower. i only “dance” when i’m alone. haha.
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I agree
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confidence helps
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Ugh, I need more confidence!
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I agree with Imnotcrazyjustinsane@xanga. I’m just not confident enough with strangers. A trait I would most likely want to give up. But yes, I agree that confidence outshines even the best dress!
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After a drink or two sure id be like that
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I absolutely loooooove the enormous differences between the comments on this post and the other lovelyish post “I Am Really Hot.”
Seems like people haven’t the brains to read what a person’s really saying unless if it’s explicitly mentioned.
Sorry for blowing off steam there.
Anyways.
Yes, confidence contributes a great deal to how well a girl looks. It comes out in her carriage, her smile, and the way she walks and adds up to looking devastatingly sexy. If you know you look great, then you do. It’s ridiculously simple to figure out and surprisingly difficult to master.
hydrangea / 72 posts
Yes. And that doesn’t just come from me. Guys that I know affirm CONSTANTLY that a girl with confidence in herself is MUCH more attractive.