Lovelyish

this is like the motto of america’s next top model.

Ive definitely found myself doing this before, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. As long as you aren’t leading anyone on, then why not?

I don’t even know what to say.

Err.. I make the boyfriend dress to fit what I’m wearing. Always  :)

Uh…Am I the only one that thinks this is wrong?

I let my boy dress however he wants as long as he lets me too.

I do have a preferance of how he dresses occasionally but I don’t mention it, I just hope he’s on the same level of me (which he always is.)

As for bringing a guy with you on a date, I’d rather someone who dresses badly but keeps me occupied then someone who dresses good and I end up wanting to shoot myself out of boredom.

“a single girl having a little fun”

That says it all right there, that the men you tote around like objects don’t mean anything, and at the end of the day, you’re still single. Hello? Men are people too. They have feelings and opinions just like women. I think some people have lost sight of that.

Men as accessories? How about Men as human beings?

I have kind of done this sort of thing too. Lets face it sometimes it’s just good to have the “perfect” man at your side. I would never use a guy who was not in on the game though. It just seems mean to pick a particular guy for a particular function based only on how he dresses. The guy who is my willing fashion accent for the events that I need to bring a man to is one of my best friends. He stands in for me as fashion accessory and faux boyfriend and I do the same for him as faux girlfriend. He is extremely hot and can pull off just about any look from beach bum at a bonfire to tuxedo flashing politico at a fund raiser. I think that as long as the guy is aware of the fact that he is being “used” and as long as you are both having fun then it is not a problem………~Echo

“Accessory” makes it sound so…negative.  I mean, it is unfair to just “sit and look pretty,” but I guess this is the way that ideas are sold.  As long as it isn’t degrading, I don’t think it’s that much of a problem.  The same goes for women; there are guys who will date a girl just because she’s attractive, right?  We’re human, we should act that way.

question. how the heck in the world do i put a layout on my freakin xanga?!

“So what do you think — is it absolutely terrible to at times consider men as accessories?”

Yes, I feel objectified as a male human being having just read that.

A man is a person, unlike a toy breed of a dog that nicely fits in a handbag.

Uh, I’d say I’m guilty of doing this but I wouldn’t use the word “accessory”. I make my boyfriend dress to fit what I’m wearing at times. That isn’t too extreme, is it?

two words:

boy toy.

I think it is silly. Women do not need to be defined by a man. And the idea of having men (or women) as accessories is silly.
Why not singleness? Independence?

@bluexoeyed@xanga - edit your look and feel

lol damn girl! if the title was “women as accessories” it’d be a field day here. i adore fashion and everything, but i don’t give a crap what my boyfriend dresses in. i think he looks good in anything. it’d be fun to be matching once in a while, but come on… he’s got his own style, just like me. … matching is fine, it’s almost cute, but picking men as accessories is wrong in my opinion.

Men use women as “accessories” all the time. I’ve seen many men on numerous occasions use attractive women to up their persona and status on the totem pole. 

We’re all people. It’s no better for women to use men as “accessories” than for men to do it to us. We’re all human beings and we all feel. Let’s consider that before we try to make a living thing be an “accessory” in our lives.

Well, people should never be accessories. I think that’s probably a bad way to put it, but I get your point. Dressing up and going out is fun and it should be fun for the two of you.

ummm. no.
how would a girl react to a guy saying this?
“sexism!!”

So…why can women do this, and men can’t?

It’s not wrong at all, men use women DAILY for the same thing. Even using a female’s friends for that as well. Anyway sometimes it’s just right to bring a date like u bring a purse. Men can be accessories, just like earrings or a belt, they make u look fabulous.

So let me ask you, how would it make you feel to read something on a man’s site about how having the right woman on his arm at the right event made him look better?

what about looking at it the other way?  do you think guys sometimes use women as their accessories?  i’ve known a few cases where the man said, “honey, i’d like you to wear this and make sure you talk to these people too at so-and-so’s party.”  men are guilty too.

i let my dude dress however he wants.  he knows i love black and skulls and anything punk, and that’s semi his style too, so it works. ^_^

Hahaha and then women get mad for being objectified themselves? I don’t do it, but I know I hear complaining about it all the time.

Communication is key, I believe, and thus if a girl wants to accessorize her guy, then tell him and dress him up if he lets you.

my boyfriend is always my greatest accessory.  he completes my look.

and let’s be honest here.  men use women as accessories too, whether or not they say it out loud.  it’s important for a powerful man to have a beautiful woman on his arm to project success…

it’s the way society projects itself.  don’t hate the players, hate the game.

I don’t agree with this at all.
You shouldn’t ever put anyone on an item level.

Are… are you serious?

@Spyder_V@xanga - 

Hahaha and then women get mad for being objectified themselves? I don’t do it, but I know I hear complaining about it all the time.

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true. what the hell?
this is beyond pay back for fixed gender roles.

I would never consider my bf an accessory. I dress how I want, he dresses how he wants, and we’re both too happy with each other to care whether we match or not. He is his own person, as I am my own too. 

men have been using women as accessories for ages. some women are catching on and trying to be superficial assholes,too, just like those men. they’re climbing up the snotty slutbag ladder.