Lovelyish

I wouldn’t do that. I think it would be sexier for a woman to actually want to show some skin for her man, not because he wants her to. If Sophie feels uncomfortable, she shouldn’t do it.

hmm kinda makes me want to ask, “does he like her for HER?”
it sounds like he just wants to get in her pants.
just my idea.

nope it’s not ok…he should accept you as he first met you not try and upgrade your style.

If the girl has to change her image JUST for him, that’s a problem.

i’m just going to use this as an opportunity to point out that “ho” is a really overused term.

i’m not like, some crazy bra-burning caricature of a feminist, but that does bother me a bit.

harvey sounds like a butthole!
i don’t think it’s okay to dress like a ho for a boyfriend.
unless, of course, it’s in *ahem* private.
if she wants to start wearing mini skirts and all that, that’s great.
but it seems like she’s being a bit forced to do it.
i’ve seen relationships like these, and they don’t end good.

well she should buy a couple of outfits that fit the criteria, but that she thinks looks good and wear them on special occasion. that way she isnt changing herself, but still gets to show off for her bf every so often

Once in a blue moon* is okay, like special occasions
But changing your whole wardrobe and dressing like a ho every day is a no no – JUST BECAUSE YOUR BF LIKES IT — what would OTHER* people think of you ?
& is that who you really are ? or what your bf want you to be* a “ho” 

um, i’d be like sorry, if you don’t like the way i dress or like me for who i am, then we’re done, i’m not changing anything for no one and guys better get that straight too ! sure i might wanna dress and look sexy for them once in a while, but not all the damn time, you;re not in control of me !

Well, one has to be physically attracted to someone before they figure out that they like the person for who they are. If she wants to dress “like a ho” for him than she should go for it. But only if she wants to. It’s not fair to totally change your image just because some guy wants you to.

No, its not OK. Maybe once in awhile, or for occasions like going to concerts, why not? 

This guy sounds like a total jerk.

I would want my boyfriend to love the way I dress regardless. There’s nothing wrong with “dressing like a ho”, if you are comfortable dressing that way.

If he really wants to see her more sexy, he could ask her to try sexy outfits in the bedroom. I think that would be completely different than asking her to change her style while in public.

I wouldn’t do that.

Keep it in the bedroom. I don’t understand why he’d want all of her goods on display.

You shouldn’t ever do anything that affects your image of yourself to please anybody, boyfriend or not.
Trust me, you’ll find love elsewhere. And clothing will be insignificant.

He should accept for the way she ALREADY is (which includes how she dresses). It sounds like he’s trying to mold her into something he wants her to be, which isn’t right. What’s next, you don’t wear enough makeup? There’s some decisions we should make for ourselves, and how we dress should be one of them. If she does change how she dresses, it should only be because she’s completely comfortable, not because he wants her to. 

If he wants her to dress overtly sexy, why does everyone else have to see it?

Modesty is freaking hot.  When you see a modest woman who is married and you know she is having crazy wild sex with her husband, it’s really sexy in a way because you know she’s keeping it all for him.  That’s how I want to be.

She should only change if she wants to, not because her boyfriend wants her to. She has her own mind, & he shouldn’t tell her what to do. But I guess once in a while.. like special occasions, is alright.

My boyfriend is the opposite.  He wants me to cover up completely so guys won’t stare at me.  Haha  He says that I can wear whatever I want to at home though.  But I still wear whatever I want to when we go out.  I like dresses and some cleavage every now and then.

No D:

No. Sounds like she needs to dump his ass. She shouldn’t have to change for him.

only if he wears man-thongs all day.

it’s only fair, really.

no.

I don’t dress for others, I dress for myself.
I’m intelligent like that. =)

they’ve only been dating for a couple months and he’s already trying to convince her to dress ‘sexier?’ that concerns me.

if my boyfriend asked me to try to ‘look better’ or more like someone else, i would be TOTALLY insulted. and more than likely i’d dump him.
she should dress how SHE wants to dress. and if she likes her current style, it would be silly to change it. [not to mention costly?]

if it weren’t my style, I’d never wear out in public..

well, maybe every once in a while only to the movies or something, but I wouldn’t change my style for a guy ever.

…but then if she dresses like a ho, won’t other men be interested in her? Does the guy like competition? xD

I find it amusing that so many girls are offended when they hear about a guy asking his girlfriend to dress more provocatively for him…but some of these girls probably have probably asked their boyfriend to change some physical aspect as well.

That said, it’s fine if that’s what she wants to do as well. It also makes a difference whether he’s pressuring her to do it, or if he simply just expressed an interest in seeing it. I have no problem with it. My bf likes seeing me in mini skirts, and I like seeing him with a clean shaven face. It’s a fair trade. And at the end of the day, we’re all visual creatures.

she should do and dress the way she wants to. if she wants to change the way she dresses for her bf, then why not? what she shouldn’t have to do is change her ways against her will.

@strappleberry_xD@xanga - agreed

No. If he really finds her attractive, he’ll find her attractive in whatever she wears.

He does sound like a jerk.

if he can’t appreciate you for what  you are or maybe he’s trying to show you off to his friends; either way, the guy’s a jerk

Find a real man

I don’t see the big deal in dressing up a little more provocative once in a while. You get to tease your man. We do things for our lovers to please them. Not because of this bullshit that we’re changing who we are, but because we compromise in a relationship. We want to see them happy, and that sometimes mean doing things that you don’t like.

Um, no one should dress for other people. Always dress for yourself. If you dress sexily, then hooray for you. If you dress conservatively, then hooray for you as well. Just do what you like and make sure you keep to it

No! She needs to be herself. Why would he want OTHER guys checking her out, if she is that attractive… bad idea.

i think knee high boots and short skirts can be done in a tasteful way if careful

theres a line between being sexy and being a ho

tch. NO.  If he can’t accept her as she is, then he doesn’t deserve to be with her.

lol why does showing cleavage and legs make you a ho?

I do get what the girls are saying; you shouldn’t change what you wear just for a guy.

but then again…don’t knock it til you’ve tried it!

I laughed when I saw that picture, because it’s almost exactly like what I was planning to wear today. I’m wearing a very similar black and white plaid skirt, some boots like those, and a cute sweater. I guess that means I dress like a whore. Or maybe I just have spring fever.  And maybe it wouldn’t hurt this girl to dress that way  once. Who knows, she might like it. Oh and by the way, I hope that none of those who are so affronted by the notion of doing something to please someone else once in awhile, ever feel the need to ask someone else to change something just for them.

Short dresses and high boots? Eeeh. How about some heels with a knee-length dress instead? XD

It’s interesting how everyone is making conclusions that he wants to see her dress more provocatively all the time. I think what he means is the same as when a girl wants to see her boyfriend in something that she finds attractive… For some girls, that might be more formal wear or whatever. It’d be fun to see once in a while, you know? If I were her, I’d try it once but only between us. And if she’s comfortable and confident enough to wear it outside, then good for her. If she’s not comfortable with it at all, private or public, he should understand and not push it anymore.

o wow.

Hoe is how to spell it

she can dress for him like that on their honeymoon.

she needs a new bf.

You shouldn’t change for yourself for a new boyfriend.  You should stay true to yourself, and if the guy doesn’t like it, you don’t need him anyway.

Wow, this guy sounds like a winner!

She sounds like from your account, a confident, *classy* girl. This should be a red flag to her: her boyfriend wants her to dress a different way so she can look more sexy to him. So what he is saying, (without saying it) is she can’t really be sexy or attractive by being herself. He doesn’t respect her, or her natural modesty. If he did – he would never have made such a ridiculous request.

She needs to dump him. And look for a guy who will respect her for who she is.

noppppe….

no that’s not okay. and harvey deserves a slap in the head and to be dumped…. pronto. what an ass.

Um, hell no.  Is this really a question?  Stay true to yourself.

Hm, its just that paradoxical behaviour/ideas that guys have.

They like women, especially their girlfriend, especially if they can see alot of her body.

The problem is if the girl dresses like a ho, her boy can see it but so can everyone else.

Which makes it akward.

I think one should separate it, wear some nice stuff for our boy, at home, like some special underwear or a really short skirt and a top that shows a lot.
He is happy but she doesnt have to feel like a hooker.

It seems like he doesn’t like her for her. You shouldn’t ask someone to change for your benefit. You change for yourself. But if she feels like she can be herself wearing something not so “hoe-ish,” she should try it out for HERSELF, not for him. kbye! =]

fck no. he can fck himself. 

Depends… are we talking an occasional thing or permanent change. Those are two different topics.  

The majority of those who said no are hypocrites.  To change your “style” permanently for a person is wrong if you are saying your style defines who you are.  but temporary changes shouldnt be that big.  Keep in mind all the times girls ask their bf’s not to wear that certain shirt out, or honey you look really hot in that outfit why dont you wear that out tonight.   Its really the same principle.  if it makes her uncomfortable then she shouldnt do it.  but if shes not and its not like hes asking her to change permanently whats the issue? 

It’s not okay if she feels uncomfortable dressing that way and he should understand. I mean, there’s a time and place for that, but he shouldn’t have her dress up just so he can show her off, ya’ know? Kinda’ creepy. Nothing wrong with playing dress up in the bedroom, though. At least it’s private and still fulfilling to the both of them, I guess.

Maybe she can dress a little sexier and they can stay in and cook dinner, watch movies. That way she wouldn’t have to leave the house feeling uncomfortable and he’d still be able to enjoy himself a little. But if he’s giving her a hard time about it, then she needs to dump him.

She needs to get a new guy. One that thinks she’s sexy the way she wants to dress. You don’t have to look trashier just to “excite” a guy. Well in this case, I guess it depends on the guy. I like to wear just cute t shirts and skinny jeans and my boyfriend tells me I’m sexy everyday. I’m never showing cleavage or leg. On special occasions I might wear a short dress, but that’s on my own terms. My boyfriend wouldn’t like it if I dressed provacatively everyday anyway.

Absolutely! Dress like a ho!

Tell him to FUCK OFF. Anybody can wear whatever they want.

she shouldn’t change who she is for him. she should dump him and then dress like a ho. make him miss her.

She shouldn’t have to change what she wears all the time, most certainly not, but like you said, maybe just for one night it could be fun.

I agree with what emilyd_foster said though, I knew someone who didn’t want his girlfriend to wear low cut shirts and short skirts because he didn’t want other guys checking her out.

nooo never ever!

nope! She should do it for HERSELF only.

Changing people is a waste of time.  If he wants someone to dress sexy, then date a girl that dresses sexy.  Simple as that.

If they’re alone together, why not? But if it’s in public she shouldn’t have to cater to his “primitive instincts”. 

I dress how I want, and what feels comfortable. I would never date someone who wanted me to dress differently. 

i don’t dress ho-ish. but i sure would for my bf.

wanna be sexy just for him

i’m sure if she says no, he’ll stay with her but he surely would enjoy her half nakes

it doesn’t make me less intelligent, i’d feel comfortable in it because i know hes looking at me and its a way of teasing him, although i don’t dress like that regularly.

uh, no.

No. She’s not her boyfriend’s toy. I’ve let my guy dress me before, and the style has differed from my own. But it was about taste, not sex appeal. 

N-double-oo!

If he likes her for her, he wouldn’t care if she was wearing a nun outfit. Lame times ten.

save that for inside the house. if he has a problem, too bad. muslim women who cover head to toe have on ho outfits like you wouldn’t believe underneath, for around the house and their husbands.

in any case, harvey sounds like a loser.

maybe only in private… not around other people. that’s how my bf sees it

Only if she wants to and only in private. He sounds like he wants to strut her around like a showhorse. Sad.

@xiaosnowtenshi@xanga - i’m on the same page as you.  most of the girls that are foaming at the mouth about this have probably had guys bending over backwards for them.

i admit the idealism sounds wonderful and all, but i don’t think i’ve ever seen a girl accept a guy for who he is without trying to change him.

in general, i think it’s just easier to be judgmental when the situation involves complete stranger, especially if it gives girls a chance to gang up on the male gender.

My advice: give him the boot. A guy shouldn’t ask his girlfriend to be uncomfortable for his viewing pleasure. If anything he should DISCOURAGE the wearage of “ho”-like clothes. Unless he WANTS all his buddies (and any other human guy)to be eyeing his girlfriend.

It would be okay to dress like that in private for him, if she wanted to, but if it makes her uncomfortable at all, then no.

Well, it depends.
On one hand, she should dress how she feels comfortable.
But there’s nothing wrong with dressing a particular way for your sweetie every now in then, if only in private.  We all have our turn-ons.

it depends i think it would be alright for sometimes to be a lil more fun and sexyee for her man but yet he also needs to accept her for who she is not what she wears. There’s nothing really wrong if her man just wants her to be a lil more sexyee or for that matter sexyee at all. It’s good to be sexyee for your man sometimes. If i had a man i would want my man sometimes dress how i would want my man to be sexyee. So it really varies.

Personally, every guy that I have been with finds me sexy or attractive no matter what I’m wearing. I don’t think it has so much to do with WHAT you’re wearing rather than HOW you’re wearing it. You can be sexy in a fitted t-shirt, jeans, and heels. That is ridiculous. I’m a fashion major, so I tend to have an eye for things like this. She needs to wear what fits her comfort zone. Anything less is completely conforming to someone else’s needs.

Might I add that skimpy ass dresses with boots is not very appealing in the first place. Not fashionable. So that would be a no in my opinion under any circumstances. Stiletto boots with thick sweater dresses; cute. Uggs or flat boots and dresses; cute. Cowboy boots and dresses; cute. But if a guy wants you to look like you belong on a corner, he’s with you for all the wrong reasons. No sane guy wants his girlfriend looking like a skank.

If she won’t feel uncomfortable dressing like that for her man, but just wouldn’t feel herself, then it probably wouldn’t hurt to spice things up once in a while.  Changing herself entirely for someone else wouldn’t be a good idea.

Dressing sexy might be fun for her, who knows? It’s just clothing for crying out loud.

He met her and hooked up with her when she wasn’t dressing like that, why should things change now? It’s the worst thing while in a relationship when a guy tells you that you need to change yourself in order to be more desirable to him. I’ve been down that route. If he can’t accept her for who she is, then she doesn’t need to be with him.

Only on his birthday

What many have said, it should be HER choice.

no..not acceptable..why change who u are so that a guy can satisfy his instincts..

What do you think? Is it okay to “dress like a ho” for your boyfriend? 

Yes it’s okay to “dress like a ho” for your man. I’m not saying to change your image completely, but doing it now and than to give your boyfriend some nice eye candy wouldn’t hurt.

wth? as far as im cincerned, what i wear and my boyfriend are two completely seperate categories. the only time those two mix is in lingerie, not day to day wear. thats ridiculous, she needs to dump him

does he ever tell her, i love you for who you are. very immature boy, if you ask me.

Do what you want, but most of the girls guys date are jjealous assholes anyway, so I wouldn’t recommend it.

btw, that is the hottest pic I’ve seen on xanga in a while, that isnt someones pretend profile pic.:P

What who said anything about dressing for my boyfriend

He’d rather me not wear clothes at all

No, thanks.

Dress for yourself.

A boyfriend should like you, not what you wear.

I sure as hell know I’m not going to go out and buy a whole wordrobe to impress some guy who’s probably an asshole anyway.

totally not! 

i dont think she should have to dress like that in public… but she could always play “dress up” just for him for, say, valentine’s evening…

I think Harvey just wants to bang her.

no. NOT ACCEPTABLE!! he should respect you..

and if you want to look trashy do it in the bedroom

On occasion surprise him

Dressing like a Ho if you want to is fine, but if it’s only for the benefit of you’re boyfriend it’s wrong.
I dress a little skanky sometimes, just to excite him, because I don’t dress like that often, so it’s sexy and new. To me anyways.
But if your friend is merely doing it because her boyfriend wants to, and she isn’t okay with it, then she shouldn’t do it.

Sounds like a bunch of air-headed women took the easy way out and blamed the guy. Notice Harvey didn’t get much of an explanation as to why, but Sophie sure got to explain how she felt.

Is Harvey really just being a pig? Maybe Harvey just asked her to wear something sexy, that’s not being a pig ((unless he really said dress like a ho, but according to this he didn’t)). I tell my wife about clothes that I think are sexy for her to wear. Some of them she likes, some she doesn’t. But she doesn’t get offended, she doesn’t jump to these stupid conclusions like a paranoid delinquent.

I don’t see anything wrong with telling a gf to wear something you find sexy. If the gf said she didn’t like it, and the guy continued to push the issue….THEN I’d agree, it’s being a pig. But none of that was mentioned in this story, yet just about every ((Female)) post is acting like he did. Grow up!

((Just to point out, because some are too pathetic to tell the difference, I never stated all women. Just the majority of who I read commenting. If you’re still offended, deal.))

fuccckkk him.

Reminds me of the 1900s when exposing an elbow or an ankle would knock men right off their feet!

Don’t do it yet if you’re uncomfortable with yourself dressing differently. If you decide to, don’t make it part of your daily wardrobe haha. I think the lovely part about how decently you dress forms a veil of curiosity which makes him wonder about your body even more. Wearing skimpy and revealing clothing every day leaves nothing for a person to imagine. Of course, treating your man on special occasions would be fun too!

I think it all depends on how comfortable you with it all. Strutting around in his house in sexy clothing would look pretty awkward and embarrassing if you’re not comfortable with yourself in it.

Its time for your friend to dump that jerk

The guy is trying to change the way she is.

Man, he’s a jerk

Yes.

Is it ok to dress like a `Ho’ for your boyfriend? Hell NO! He should love her for her, not who he thinks what she should be. All she will be doing in lowering her self down to his level, not a good move. And I’m guy!

dude, being with a girl like that is awesome, because only you know what is underneath all that clothing. Harvey should appreciate what he has more, though, shedding the image for one night isn’t so bad if she wants to set off his flare, but he should totally be willing to do the same for her.
-Sheik

No it’s not okay. He should like her for who she is and not trying to change her into someone who he wants her to be.

He sounds like your typical, asshole guy that wants sex and sex alone. If he really appreciated her, he’d respect her beliefs and her style, and love her for her.

Everyone would be seeing her cleavage and leg – not just Harvey.  Best to keep some parts of yourself private, especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Some people like the attention dressing like that will bring but it sounds like “Sophie” would be terribly uncomfortable.

“Harvey” needs to start dressing sexier in comparison.  No more tennis shoes or polos – if she has to step up her game so should he…

LMBO!!! So Lindsay Lohan have to be the model for a ho? That’s kinda cold.

Every once in a while, maybe. Not all the time—I would not change my entire wardrobe, but it can be fun.

Tell her to break out something hella sexy on Valentine’s Day as a present for him. ;D

I don’t think it’s wrong for him to want to see his girlfriend in something sexy every once in a while.
Even if she does it in small, teasing quantities.

Like wearing a totally, non-boob-showing shirt, with a shorter skirt– not like a butt-cheek-showing skirt but a mid-thigh one, with some wedge heels.

That’s not trashy at all, but it’s still sexy. You know?

Oh hellll no you are not using my girl Lindsay for this blog,

she is no hoe ! watch it sister.!

I’m a guy who likes women, so I will say this:

It is okay to dress naughty when it is time to be naughty. (like in the bedroom) Women should dress for success when it is time for success. Women should dress for relaxing when it is time to relax.For the most part, dress with a dignified look for the outside world.

Please do not look like you just woke up when you go grocery shopping. Please do not dress like a call-girl unless your business is on the street corner. Please do not wear clothes for a teenager when you are pimping 30+ years old. (this is to all ladies)

no. she shouldn’t change up her style to cater to his animalness. if he wants her to, he’s not worth it. a good man will love her AND the way she dresses. apparently she has a modesty about her, and if he can’t appreciate that, forget him!
if my boyfriend ever asked me to bump up the slutty-o-meter a notch cuz he wanted to see more of my body, he’d be out on his butt so fast. seriously.@NightCometh@xanga - YES.

Are we talking in the bedroom or in public?

Because if wants a bit of a fun costume for some private time, all the power to him for bringing it up! But if he wants her to dress up like that all the time…. who is he trying to impress?

I know how she feels. My boyfriend doesn’t care how I dress but I can tell when he likes something. He likes the whole school girl thing but we both agreed it didn’t matter considering it comes off anyways. I’m just a naturally modest dresser, I have a large chest that I hate & hate showing off for some reason. I may dress to look cute for a guy but never to look sexy. I want someone to be interested in me for me and still find me cute.

From my personal experience my boyfriend loves me in sweats, hoodie, with my hair thrown up & a head band. I’m sure he’d like the short skirts [though I'm short so legs don't do much] etc but he’s never said a thing about that. He makes me feel sexy as hell when I wake up in sweats & a baggy tee.

It’s just all personal preference, just let her see if he likes her for her and if he does then I don’t see the harm in dressing like that for him. I wouldn’t dress more provocative unless I was with my boyfriend, I hate unwanted attention and I don’t think he’d like some creepers eyeing up his girlfriend.

if they are pretty much settled down (aka, already talking marriage, he’s saving up for a ring and they’re both saving for a wedding) and its a one night change and he’d do the same for her and he loves her for her…then its ok. But i think that this is way off into the future for them and not what is happening right now for th em

I wouldn’t change how I dress for a boyfriend. If he doesn’t like her the way she is, I’m sure she can find someone else who would. My sister’s husband always tell me her (and me) that our we wear our clothes too big. We always just laugh at him and tell him that maybe if we could find clothes that fit properly, we’d wear them. (We’re both tall and skinny.)

for me no.  lady on the streets, freak in the sheets.  That’s how I like it hehe.

I agree with shinymeshapples@xanga.  If she could find something she did feel comfy in, doing it every now and then wouldn’t be so bad.  And who knows, she might like feeling that bit sexier.

She should dress how she wants to dress. I think the best solution for them would be sexy lingerie

Of course, I hate how my boyfriend dresses, but to me it seems rude even to suggest they dress differently. Like saying, “Why don’t you try a new look, cause you look bad the way you are.”

Personally I don’t think that she should if she’s uncomfortable with it. I’m typically comfortable in my skin so I do dress revealing once in a while because I want to wear the cute mini I just bought or something. But don’t change for a guy. 

Dear fuck, does she have any self esteem to go out with an idiot like him?

it sertainly is not oke.
Her boyfriend must accept her how she is.
no matter what she wears.

my boyfriend doesnt want me to show much.
and i really appreciate it, because its how I am
How you explained your friend, I think Im a bit
like that. not sure completley though.
I like that my boyfriend wants it because he doesnt
want that other guys looks at me that way. It shows
he doesnt wanna share me =p

I don’t think she should change for him. Why should she? He should like her for her. If she wants to dress up a little for him on special occasions, like if he’s going to take her out on a date, I think that’s ok. But he should NOT try to control her. If she wants to do something, it has to be on her own accord. I think if she’s going to do it, it should be for herself, like as a confidence boost. Like, “hey I feel sexy today and I’m gonna flaunt it…and maybe my boyfriend will enjoy it, but who gives a shit if he does or doesn’t?”

Harvey sounds like an ass, if you ask me…

Welll… I wouldn’t dress like a hoe for my boyfriend because duh, I don’t even dress like one to begin with. It would make me feel uncomfortable and even if he asked me to do it, I wouldn’t. I would he knows me well enough to know that I don’t put up with nasty shit like that.