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Wow… yeah I’d be mad if he didn’t know my eye color. Kinda makes me want to ask my ex what color mine are…

Anyway, I think guys notice what you wear. My ex (same one I mentioned) remembered what I wore sometimes. It was cute. I also think they notice hair and jewelry. Pretty much anything that’s blatantly obvious.

Normally, I wouldn’t care if a guy didn’t know my eye color, but according to him, eyes were “the most attractive thing”. So yes.

Irony, no?

ur cup size…

lets be real they’ll never admit it…

no i dont think he was lying… unless someone has a really destinctive eye color, i wont remember it either

Nah, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.  And, I wouldn’t take it to mean that he doesn’t notice your eyes as being attractive.  It just means that what’s attractive to him about them isn’t a specific color or something that he necessarily puts into words; he just thinks they’re beautiful.  I could tell you that I think a certain painting is beautiful then turn around and only be able to give you a very hazy description of it.  I just like it.

psh… you worry so much about things.  Eye Color… did he say Eye color was the prettiest thing?  Honestly I will say that I do think eyes are the most atractive… but being that I know my own eyes change color, knowing the color doesn’t interest me.  It’s more of the shape that grabs me.  I might off handedly notice someone’s eyes are blue or green or brown… but the shape is what I really take notice of.  But seriously if a guy responded that a lady’s body was the most important, would you be upset if he couldn’t tell you which skin-tone you happen to have?  If he liked lips, would you be mad he didn’t notice every different shade of lipstick?  If he liked Hair?  Hopefully you can see what I mean now… Eye color changes too (and with colored contacts, more drasticaly than ever before).

it’s just how guys and girls think differently I guess?  According to studies, guys tend to be more of spacial thinkers, right?

Then again… I know how much girls relish in having something to be upset about, so… neh.

Also, girls are just as atracted to shiny things as guys D: (some would say more so as girls tend to buy jewlry for themselves more often than boys).  Something shiny just has a way of grabbing one’s attention.  To keep it though, you probably need more.

Guys like body shape (probably most of all)… somehow it’s not politically correct to say it though… but even so, body shape is just the first part.  You need style to accent it correctly (that does mean girls don’t all have to be rail thin or busty or w/e… you just need the right style).  For a lot of guys though… face makes the biggest difference from a one night thing to a potential relationship thing (only focusing on the physical, since that was the topic).  Noses are noses… there’s little you can do (aside from surgery) but luckily they’re not often unatractive.  Lips and teeth… well they’re important, and it makes a difference for a number of reasons… but eyes show a lot about what someone is Really like.  If they like to think, if they’re curious about things… happy or sad, maybe a little mischevious… and none of that is really affected by the color of your eyes.

(that was really long, and I could probably keep going… the only reason I didn’t cut it shorter, is I have no expectations anyone will read it anyway   Doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of good info though~)

i’d been seeing a guy on and off for almost a year; I wore blue contacts (i have brown eyes) last time i was with him.. he kept looking at me strangely, and finally (a few hours in)… “I’m going to feel really stupid if you say no, but are those colored contacts?

I think boys don’t grow to maturity because we allow them not to (as a society).  It’s cute for a boy to act like a 2nd grader when he’s 29, and such.  It’s quite sad.

@Sabishii_Kitsune@xanga - that’s really interesting — i read it all. you should blog about this and submit it to lovelyish. it’s nice to get another point of view.

Way to be stereotypically ignorant.
Have you ever stopped to think about just how much you really notice about him? The things that REALLY matter?

Its time to grow up and stop acting like all men are scum.
I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t enjoy it if men constantly referred to women as expensive whores that didn’t let them watch tv when they wanted to.

They ARE neanderthals….they notice boobs and butts . I am well-blessed in the boob area, and not a single one passes up the chance to stare.

Don’t be upset that he didn’t notice your eye color…one thing he’s certainly noticed is your beauty, or he wouldn’t be dating you.

first impression… definitely the hot bod and pretty face.

Boys notice either tits or ass – seriously

They like things that tends to stick out / eye catching/ appealing to them

I think guys look at a pretty face first. But when it comes to dating, I have enough faith in guys to believe they look at personality first and foremost. You can’t build a relationship on nice boobs.

I actually asked my boyfriend of almost year what he first noticed about me and he said ” I noticed how little and cute you were, but I noticed how witty and charasmatic you were first.”

No all men are pigs. The one’s that are, are just easier to spot, that’s all. The nice ones aren’t so forward about things. :]

I love the shiny things quote

all guys are different. there are some amazing guys who can remember every mole, every freckle on your skin

and there are some clueless fellas that won’t even remember your name!

It’s the face. The body is secondary, it doesn’t have to be perfect. An interesting face is what attracts guys.

I don’t think it matters if a guy doesn’t know your eye color. I mean, a lot of guys are colorblind after all. In all seriousness, it’s what’s inside that counts. He should like you for what’s inside and not for what color eyes you have.

Humans have a very poor color memory, and I don’t EVER remember eye colors unless I am specifically trying to remember them. Even eyes that stand out to me.

I don’t think of myself as a neanderthal…but perhaps I no longer qualify as a “boy” anymore either. I hate shiny things. Shiny things scream DESPERATION! to me. But I’m consciously odd.

That said, I never pay attention to eye color. In fact, I couldn’t tell you what I do pay attention to. If “boys are neanderthals” it’s only because our approach to attraction is holistic. No male is selective to the level of specifics. Guys that are attracted to “eyes” probably mean only the kinds of eyes you can’t miss. Which is no insult to anyone who doesn’t have them, it’s merely a compliment to those that do. Eyes never trump the whole. It’s more like…wearing something shiny.

Try this one out: Boys are troglodytes! Wear shiny things.

I think it would depend on how long you had been “hanging out”
I mean one or two hang outs he cant be expected to know your eye color…but if your dating and such then yeah you have every right to be pissed.

As stated boys dont have a very good attention span and only notice things about a girl that really stand out or that he finds interesting (your boobs, your ass, etc.) Or at least that has been my experience.

For me it goes something like this
1. Smile
2. Eyes/facial structure/symmetry
3. Way they dress/present yourself
4. Bod
*extra points if they got their own swag

I’m also that guy that noticed all they tiny details about things and will point em out no problem. You got a hole in your sweater I all ready saw that from afar. A tiny stain on your jeans will bug me all day. Oh yea by the way, you wore those jeans yesterday too. That kind of stuff. You always wear those shoes with this outfit. I’ve never romantically been in a situation where these have worked in my favor (because I’m an old fashioned-disney washed-unrealistic dreamer when it comes to love and relationships).

I think there are too many things that girls idealize or notice in themselves and other girls which are trivial in respect to things like if she’s an enjoyable person to talk to, if she’s memorable, can she make me smile or brighten my day.

As for your friends comment about things that really stand out–girls who jam out to their ipods and are having a great time really stand out. Girls who put a little more hip into their walk really stand out. Girls who unabashedly aren’t afraid to go out live and have fun really really stand out.

Boys notice boobs and butts, Men pay attention to all of you. To say I like eyes could mean I like the eye shadow you are using or the way you use eyeliner or how there shadowed not necessarily what color they are. Boys brag about how hot their girlfriend is and men tend to brag about intelligence, Wit and accomplishments in their women. So take your pick

Boobs then ass…

a pretty face is a plus but they wont pay too much attention to that ( at first at least)

MEN ARE PIGS. end of story.

They’ll remember your teeth if they’re ugly.

my closest guy friend informed me that it is “bewbs”  (not boobs but “bewbs”…go figure)

@girlymac@xanga - that’s really sweet!@chefstu@xanga - well said. thank you!

@NightCometh@xanga - this is very true.

it depends on how long and how serious i was about the person.  i’d be mad if a serious boyfriend that i had been seeing for a while didn’t know.  as for what boys notice, they notice al ot of things.  they notice your hair, your clothes, your perfume, your personality etc.  they notice all of you.

I think boys look at the whole package, and overlook minor flaws or minute details. Girls on the other hand, scrutinize everything.

If you want a real answer based on evolution, blablabla, cuz I find that shit interesting, then it’d probably be: face (baby faces usually are preferable, as well as symmetry and dilated pupils)- this is because your facial features are less easily apt to change, and thus any genetic defects can be more easily detected with it; then your waist to hip ratio (lower=better)

It depends how long you were going out. If he gets it wrong again, THEN I’d give him some grief about not knowing your eye color. =P

The reason he didn’t know the color of your eyes: He was probably stunned by the shine of them. hahahahahahaha. okay, bad joke.

Eh, I wouldn’t worry about him not remembering your eye color. He probably doesn’t remember his own.

@endlessnonsense@xanga - hahahahhaaha

@Iris - My Pleasure

@StrawberryShy@xanga - I just looove how all these “men are pigs, dogs/animals/creeps/bastards/scum/monsters” comments are allowed to just fly, and we’ve got to keep wearing them…when do you think that will start to have a, really, negative affect ?

The boobs and ass are very, very important, that’s nature !

And the face is VERY important !!

Then there is the wonder of her heart and soul !!!

And, going by the way you look, I doubt that you’ve got ANYTHING to complain about, everrrr.

“men are pigs”…for naturally paying passionate attention to a girl or woman’s fabulous boobs and bum ?…..whaaa?

Oh, but of course, I’m supposing that all those girls who are now getting into “lesbianism” and going on about ‘tits and ass’, and going on blogrings such as “I like pussy” is just fine and dandy and “okay”?

@S_K_O_T@xanga - 

I retract my statement. Men are not pigs/filthy animals of any sort.

You are right.. boobs and ass are important, but sometimes we would appreciate it if that wasn’t the only thing you guys noticed..

Everything we say can be disregarded as long as we have these assets, am i right?

@StrawberryShy@xanga - Are you blind, arrogant, or wilfully obtuse?

I’m responding to YOUR comments, and the vibe of this post and most of the other replies.

Did you not notice that I wrote about the face ?

And did you not notice that I wrote about the wonder of women’s hearts and souls??!!

Your heart and soul !

And let me add to that, minds !

And no, everything you say canNOT be disregarded…just, please, don’t flaunt and use those ‘assets’ of all yours so cruelly and sparingly…have some mercy !

When I think about it though…being “only” appreciated for being beautiful, for having nice “assets”, as “something” good…as  opposed to what men are only seen as…ugly, harsh, utilitarian work objects, with all emotions, passions and ideas utterly disregarded…I know what is definitely the worse of the two !

They like boobs. I have almost nothing, literally. 

they remember how big your boobs are, and what your mouth looks like.
i mean that sounds pretty obvious to me.

I’ve heard that men pay attention to 3 things: women, things that move, and shiny things… so a woman wearing something shiny and moving around is sure to attract!! Just not sure if it’s the kind of attention you want haha

@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - 

I’m kinda interested in the evolutionary stuffs too.. I’ve read that the hip to waist ratio that is the most universally appealing to men is .70, where your waist is 30% smaller than your hips, so wearing things that accentuate a small waist is going to attract men on an instinctual level, despite perhaps having small boobs, or other ‘flaws.’ Being instinctual, it’s an attraction that most guys won’t even consciously notice, and will possibly even attribute to, well… your other attributes.

The mouth is another instinctual attractor, as it is basically an indicator of your overall and sexual health (lips are meant to look like… well… vaginal lips…)

OH and with the face thing, its not just baby faces, but also the “most average” face, plus the symmetry thing… crrazy shtuff!

So we did an experiment in psychology class. We split the guys and the girls when suddenly the teacher left the room and sent someone in to tell us to describe what he was wearing 30 seconds before he left, and it’s been proven, at least in my class, that girls notice and retain to memory, minors things like clothing and habits quicker than guys.
so don’t worry about it.  I’m sure he was just having one of those moments.
Btw I find eyes to be the most defining characteristics of a girl as well,  “the window into the soul” as they say.  Next would be personality.