Lovelyish

well, some people get too comfortable in a relationship and don’t exercise or eat healthy.

it depends on the person.

from my experience, when you’re with someone you’re more motivated to eat right and exercise more. i’ve read magazines that people, men and women, save themselves from a lot of health problems when they have a partner. it kinda makes sense but i don’t think you necessarily need someone to be healthy. 

i don’t agree with this. i lost 8 lbs of unhealthy weight when me and my ex broke up. the lifestyle of a person in a relationship tends to become ‘comfortable’.. i find, at least. 

I disagree. I see people gain weight. They get comfy with the person and no longer feel they need to impress them to the extent they did at the beginning of their relationship. It consistently happens to me, at least. Also when I’m single I usually lose weight. So I disagree completely, basically.

yeah i def. disagree. for the most part people tend to gain weight after they’ve been in a relationship for a long period of time. you’re saying that they just got together and handled the business well they haven’t spent that much time together if they starting dating at Thanksgiving, we just passed Christmas. A month does not constitute a long relationship, at least not in my book. Also, a common misconception is that sex burns so many calories when in fact it really doesn’t. Sorry to disappoint, although it may feel like you’re working off some of that Christmas feast you’re really only putting in a very small dent.

I definitely eat healthier when I’m living with other people. I’ve gone through two roommates already this year and when I was living without one I ate more and less healthily. I gained weight. I became sluggish and out of shape.
With my second roommate, I began to eat better. Now that I’m back home for break I’m eating even better and have even lost weight!

yeah I don’t know. I am with someone but it just seems like I am gaining weight.

.. When I am in a relationship I am more slim.

@abcxunt@xanga - that would be me and my boyfriend hahaha

i dunno, i’m usually much more healthy when i’m single because i have a lot more free time, so i’ll spend the time cooking and excercising. if i’m bored i’m much more likely to go, hmm… how about a walk or a swim, etc.

plus my current boyfriends always hungry so i ended up eating more sometimes just because he’s eating something tasty in front of me
: X

When I was single, I stayed in great shape.  I put on 15 pounds after I got married.  I got comfortable.  Oh well

I think whether you’re in a relationship or not is only a small variable as to how your health is. It’s ludicrous to say that single people are damned to be fatter and slovenly with high cholesterol whereas all the people in relationships will be toned and amazing.

It depends on a whole bunch of things- not just the one. 

I think that when people are in a relationship they tend to gain more weight because they eat out more often and generally feel more comfortable around each other no matter what weight they are. Since I have been single, I have been more motivated to lose weight in order to be more healthy and feel better about myself in order to find someone (even though weight shouldn’t matter when it comes to finding a significant other) but, it definitely gives me more motivation to lose weight and be healthier when I am single!

I think it can depend. When I first started going out with my boyfriend, I ate all this new fast food that I never really bothered with when I was young and with my parents- who rarely let me eat that shit. So let’s say my palette expanded- all in bad ways. But at the same time, he is a good motivator for me. I always want to look my best for not just me, but also for him. I want to have good sex too on a regular basis- so that is also a good motivator. I think overall being in a GOOD, SUPPORTIVE relationship can help a person be healthier in all ways.

actually, I looked better AFTER I got out of the relationship.

I like the think of this period as the healing/slimming process.

Once the pounds come on again, you know you’re over him

but good argument either way.

Don’t be stupid; everyone’s different.

haha i think its bs. it depends on the person.  Some people have good self control. I know a lot of my friends who are in relationships for a few years, and gain weight.  Some people feel that since they are in relationship, they seal the deal and so they don’t need to look as good knowing that their gf/bf is still with them. It can go either way.

see for me, I have to agree with those who say that relationships tend to make you gain weight. I know that was the cause for me. When I started dating my boyfriend about a year ago, I was suddenly much happier because I had a new person to spend time with. We’d do lots of things together and we went out to eat a lot more. I gained a lot of weight…went up about 4 pants sizes…Not Pretty. But I’m doing well now…eating better, exercising more…I’ve gone back down 2 thankfully. But I consider that time my “Happy Fat” because it resulted from me being happy. It’s so much easier to let it slide and be happy, than to make some changes to be healthier and still be happy.

Women are fucking unbearable. Nagnagnagnag. I’d rather be unhealthy thanks much. 

Um, I think I was healthier when I was single … I’m only sixteen, and I’m in my first relationship. I’ve gained about ten pounds since we got together. Yeah. I didn’t realize until today. Funny that I read the blog now. Can you tell I’m a bit fazed by this? >.<

It really depends on the person and their current situation. I’m currently in a very comfortable relationship and believe I’ve been gaining weight since we started dating. Since we don’t have our own place together, we’re constantly trying to find things to do so we go out often and eat out a lot. I guess it would be different if we have our own place, then maybe we’d try to cook healthier things.

I tend to eat healthier when I live on my own.. my parents bring home cookies and chocolate and I just can’t resist.. haha

read this on Healthkicker and i think it really depends…
but to me, it’s not true cause i started working out at the gym and eating healthier after the breakup =P

I’ve been single all my life and have so far lost 40 pounds by myself.
We don’t need a man in our lives to suddenly make everything better. I’m so sick of everyone thinking this.

I have been married for 11 years, and do not agree that couples are healthier than singles, In the group that I know, singles are healthier and more inclined to hit the gym religiously and at better.In order for me and my guy to do  that,we have seriously make extra time to do that,because we have all these other “jobs” to do. I agree that your friend may have lost weight at the beginning of relationship, but give it some time and wait until she gets complacent with the realtionship. When the emotions relly kick in, I guarantee that some wieght will be gained…

I try to be healthy. Really, I do. But I can’t make the number budge very much. I’m in a relationship, and we go through fit/flabby stages.

I think that is utter BS.  I am a firm believer in doing things for you and for no one else.  Look at me, for example.  I am single, yes.  I do not work out that often nor do I eat particularly well not because I am single, but because I do not want to. If I met a guy who would not date me or would break up with me because I do not work out a lot and do not eat organic salads or tofu, he can go to hell! If I met a guy who didn’t want to date or stay with me because I was lil chubby, guess what? lol

 Aren’t good relationships about having your partner accept you for who you are? Isn’t good self-esteem all about being okay with your natural self and improving what you want, because you don’t like it and not based on what others think?     
Is there something that I am missing?  

Well, people with kids want to set an example, so maybe those people with partners eat healthier. For the most part though, I think it has more to do with the eating habits they’ve had their entire life and their income (can’t always afford to eat healthier).

I knew a friend that gained weight because the couple kept going out and eat.

I think thats a bunch of bologna. You can be single and still skinny aka eat healthy, work out and don’t be a couch potato.

Me personally, I find that after my relationship I gained weight.  It could be the birth control or the getting older with a worse metabolism, but all in all, I think there is a certain truth to being single and unhealthy.

For some women, not being in a relationship means being able to be unhealthy because you have no one to impress, while other women believe it’s a reason to be more healthy either for themselves or to attract another partner.  Either way, keeping yourself healthy shouldn’t be influenced by whether or not you have a SO.. although it might be the more exciting way to work out :p