Guest blog submitted by bn_cognizant
 



The more I think about it, the more I realize I have no sense of style that I call my own. That thing others call “personal style”? Yeah,  I’m not really sure how to achieve it.  Sure, I dress nicely and I match, but when it comes to carving out a fashion niche, I have no clue what I’m doing. I don’t even have a wardrobe. I don’t have any clothes I particularly like in my closet; they’re just there for function. I can’t go to work naked, so I just throw on something and hope no cute guys see me.



I’d love to buy clothes I like, but malls make me claustrophobic. I hate being there because in the back of my mind I feel as if they won’t have my size. Every time I start shopping, my skinny sisters can pick out anything and I’m left with the short end of the stick because I’m in the middle. I’m not skinny nor plus-sized, so I’m not really sure where I fit. This can get really discouraging, especially when you try on the cutest shirt and it doesn’t fit because your shoulders and/or your chest overtake the shirt.

I understand that style is defined by adding your special flare to the clothes you own, but what happens if you hate the clothes you have? Do you start from scratch? Getting dressed in the morning is a daunting task for me. The faster I get dressed, the less time I spend complaining about how my clothes don’t fit. I’ve become so accustomed to ill-fitting clothes that it’s like I don’t even bother to change for the better. But I’m a girl and I want to love my clothes and love going shopping to get them.

How did you find your personal style? What advice would you give to those confused about their style?