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I would,  for sure.  I care what she thinks.

Haha, my present boyfriend is called Adam too. But he hasn’t tried to change my appearance yet. I’ve just become a lot more self-conscious, as if I’m worried that he’ll realise my ugly features. -__-;;

i dunno. if it’s a small change and he/she likes it better, like hair down or up, that’s not a big deal.

but i wouldn’t change like EVERY day. nor would i change if it were REQUIRED of me. i mean, if someone says, i like your hair better down and think you should wear it that way more often, that’s one thing. but if they’re like really intent that you only wear it like that, that’s stupid. wow, i’m babbling.

and it would have to be someone really really important for me to change for

it depends on my mood. but generally, i would change my appearance for him if it makes him happy!

i’d do anything for him, well in my case my ex. i’ve lost 16lbs just to be the girl he’d look at. 

Nope.  My boyfriend hated when I cut my hair.  I hated it when he cut his hair. He hated when I dyed mine.  I couldn’t care any less.  It just physical appearance, which is not what our relationship is based on.

I consider my husband’s opinions on how I look but I wouldn’t change anything if I didn’t want to. He likes my hair longer and I don’t really have a preference so I keep it long. Stuff like that. He would never ask me not to cut it if I was thinking about it and even if he did I would do whatever I wanted. I can respect his preferences while still being true to myself. But then I think the dynamic is a bit different with us because we are married.

I would, if it’s something small, like wearing my hair down instead of up, or wearing a certain outfit he likes. But I wouldn’t make a major change in my appearance, like cut my hair (I’m growing it long, thank you!). And I wouldn’t adopt a look which I thought looked awful on me. I need to feel good too.

Heck No.  If he doesn’t love me for me, then he shouldn’t have been with me in the first place, simply put.  I don’t think people should feel the need to change their outer appearance just because of their s/o.  Self worth and/or values derives from within and not by the validation of others.

In my opinion, when i guy says he likes your hair a certain way, its almost better than a friend saying it looks cute. But to change it all the time, to take you out of your comfort zone, isnt very good. No one should change their opinion on something they do just to make another person happy.

Well I think you should keep your man/woman happy, but if they don’t like you for who you are, then you truely shouldn’t be with you. I would change my hair, if it made me happy. I recently cut my hair shorter than I usually do, my man said he likes it but likes longer hair better. I agree, so I am going to grow it out again. I like my longer hair better too.

I think you should take it into consideration, but if there are (legit) reasons why you dress the way you do, then you shouldn’t completely just flip flop. I know I don’t. I occasionally dress up for my SO, but otherwise, I wear casual tshirts and jeans. 

There are things that I would do for a guy if he casually mentioned it. For instance if he said “You look pretty with your contacts in because I can see your eyes better”. I’d probably wear my contacts around him more often. But if a guy said “You should get contacts because they look better” I’d have a problem with that. I guess what I’m trying to say is I would not do something new because a guy told me to but I would do something I already do more often if he liked it.

hair’s not a big deal – and pretty typical thing to adapt for an SO.  it’s not like the girl’s buying an entirely different wardrobe at the guy’s demand.

it’s just an attraction technique. you want to keep them interested. so when you find out their favorites about you, you’ll naturally want to bring those out more frequently.  when done in moderation, it turns out to be a positive thing for a lot of people – they end up feeling more self-assured and attractive in with a look they’re usually more shy about showing.

well in my opinion…it just depends how u think thats all i mean if a guy likes you it doesnt matter how ur hair looks like or how you look like because at some point they like you because the like the person..yes appearance do attract

I have changed a couple of times but then I realized if the person likes me in the first place then I shouldn’t have to do anything different. Don’t get me wrong some times I will do something special that I know they will like but I am not about to go buy a new wardrobe for them…. unless its at the thrift store!!! Lol

Nope because I have to be happy with myself, the way I look. Besides he knew what he was in for from the git-go because I’ve wore the same hairstyle for 20+ years. Change is sooo NOT my thing, rofl,

i deff. wouldnt change my face like get surgery or sommin but if he likes my hair down i’de do it or if he’d want my hair grown out out or cut i’de do it.

kaye

no, i don’t give a crap what my guy thinks on how i look. he should like me for who i am. If i want to dress up for him then i’ll dress up for him. I also have my hair in a ponytail almost everyday at school and i usually tell my friends it’s because my hair would go poofy if i put it down and that’s true and once i started it i never stopped. It’s become a habit for me.

um…hey? who r you? hows it going? do i know you?

im clare…

If its a change for the better, sure.  I started wearing better clothes since I’ve met my girl, and if I look better, I feel better, and that’s good for her, too.  I’m not going to start going emo, if that’s what you mean.

well i guess hair isnt so bad because people in general do look nicer with it down..but when they tell how you to change the way you dress and what you wear or how to act, thats a hell nooo!!! thats when it becomes a controlling relationship…then itll prob become an abusive…

I think a lil change can b good, to please him/her as long as its not something ur not comfortable with, cause then again its just appearance..

Don’t know how to say….but go for it no matter what people say how good or how bad it could be…

I’m too lazy. I have curly hair and I know my bf likes it straight but fuck that I dont even own a hair dryer much less a straightener.

I would. Like, I have short hair, but the guy I like prefers longer hair. I think short hair is a luxury, but I didn’t completely hate my long hair, so I think I might grow it out again just to see.

Hair is something you can change. If I don’t like it I’ll cut it again, and give it to Locks of Love too. But maybe I’ll give it a second chance, you know? Hair isn’t as big of a deal as my more-than-friend.

If he asked, and I didn’t think it was hideous, yeah, I’d do it. Why not?

yes i have changed completly:_

I think, why not? I’m not the one who has to look at me, except in a mirror, and hopefully I don’t spend too much of my time with that. I think it it is good to want to be pleasing to our significant others, instead of getting too wrapped up in ourselves and our personal autonomy. Everyone knows we can do what we want with our appearance. We don’t have to fight for that or prove it; might as well use it to reflect that we want to please our SO. Hopefully it will be reciprocated.

I wouldnt call it change* — how about IMPROVING their looks?
I know how to dress / look good
But my BF doesnt
even my BF* HIS FRIENDS COME TO ME FOR FASHION ADVICE
So we love shopping together

Think of it as being on “WHAT NOT TO WEAR” and I would be Stacy London haha

small changes aren’t so bad, as long as you’re open to still dressing the way you like to. but everyone wants to be admired by their so

i dress for my boyfriend. i keep my nails polished at all times lol cause he loves my nails. and i shave down there for him even though if it was up to me, i wouldnt shave it. i usually wear athletic clothes but i dress up when i see him. i think everyone dresses for the opposite sex/ boyfriend or girlfriend. he dresses for me. there’s one thing i told him never to wear when he sees me and he obeyed lmao

if it’s something stupid or something i don’t care about, i’ll change it for my boyfriend….but it’s not really an issue since he just loves my natural look. he actually likes me better w/out makeup (i think he’s slightly insane) i won’t drastically change my looks for anyone unless i’m getting paid A LOT of money for doing so LOL

No, I’ll change myself if I feel like it period. If they don’t like me the way I am, then screw it.

Nope. Well, in a way, my boyfriends loves me for all that who I’m. He doesn’t expect me to dress a certain way for him, and he doesn’t expect anything too dressy from me either. Even though, I dress up anyways.

if its changing (or adjusting) something as inconsequential as hair up or down i dont see what the big deal is.  your SO likes your hair down, make em happy every once in a while and wear it down.  and i do like to dress up when going out with a boy, because i like to look good and i like him to know that i look good.

but if its something big like changing your life plan, goals, who you see/hang out with, etc etc, then the SO should be dropped.  fast.

it depends.  i’d occasionally do it to compromise.

No

I might not change my appearance to his liking ALL the time, but I would make a special effort to dress/look as he likes maybe two or three times a week.  It makes him feel special and know that I appreciate his opinion on my looks.

I am always asking my husband which way he prefers my hair done.  Hey, he’s the only one I really dress nicely for anyway, so his input is important. On the other hand, if we were just dating, and I had not known him for so long, I don’t think I would appreciate his two scents as much in the details of my hair unless I asked.  He should be totally enthralled with me no matter how my hair is done!  

Boys tell me I need longer hair.

if they don’t like me the way i am already- then too bad for them!

It depends on what my original image was like. If I was some sort of hooker, then yes, I would change for him. But I don’t think it’s right for a guy to tell you what to wear or what you should look like. He should love you, not the you of his imagination.

my bf hates my hair in braids…n in a ponytail…so i dont do it if i know i’m oging to see him.

he also hates it when i cut my hair….so i minimize that

i will wear clothes that he likes and will wear my hair how he likes it when we go out with friends or on a date but most of the time i go with what is most comfortable: t-shirt shorts, and hair up in a messy bun.

A boy I like once told me I was beautiful after I had put a bit of makeup on. I almost never wore makeup previously to then but now I wear it basically every day. But it makes me feel good about myself too, so I say it’s win-win.

I’ve been in the same predicament your friend has and changing who you are is changing the person you are and obviously if they are trying to change you they don’t like it. Which is kind of like a hidden meaning? you know what i’m talking about?

it’s not always the case but it sometimes works out like that, but whats going on with me is my boyfriend wants me to fit into the scene look, and i don’t really want that because it’s just too big of a trend and i’d just be a follower. For me i like to be different? So basically my point is change isn’t always bad. if its for the better and not for the wrong reasons.

shit i just subscribed to a beauty blog didn’t i?

my boyfriend likes my hair down. just because i always get mad when he moves my bangs around when my hair is up. and so that he can play with my hair. but i dont wear my hair down all the time just because he said he likes it that way. its not really a big deal… but yeah just to make things a little more exciting i’d do what he likes. once in a while only. too much just kills it.

yes, to a certain extent

occasionally i’ll ask my fiance what he would think if i changed my hair or made some alteration to my appearance and no matter what he says i always end up doing what i want. when we first got together i was thinking about piercing my nose and he flat out told me he didn’t like nose rings but i did it anyway, he ended up thinking it looks cute on me! haha he also doesn’t like bangs but i went ahead and cut mine just a few weeks ago… i know he loves me for me and not what i look like.

There have been times where I have changed in the past for an SO, but not recently. My current boyfriend and I were best friends before we started dating. So, we pretty much know everything about eachother. And we’re very, very similar, sometimes SIGHING at the same exact moment or laughing at the same moment. Or saying the same exact thing at once…!!

I’ve learned that it’s better for me to not change for someone unless it’s one of those positive changes.

NOPE. i change for myself.

i probably would. i would want to hear that conversation before judging if he actually asked her to change. she may have worn her hair down one day and he commented on how beautiful she looks with it down and that he loves her hair down, so she decided to wear it down. i’d want to hear what was said.

I used to consider my ex’s opinion when getting dressed if I was going to see him.Especially after he told me about his friend’s girlfriend and how “she is sloppy in apperence and is always wearing his clothes”.

But, now, I am kind of seeing someone new and I don’t really feel the need to conform to his desires because the way I dress is about me and my comfort.

I have had short hair since I can remember, and I dye/bleach the hell out of it, and I have no clue what me real hair color is.

So, I decided to grow my hair out. Not only to make it healthier so that eventually I can start dyeing it again(hehe) but so that I can actually see what my hair color is.

Plus, I think that long hair is very pretty. Despite liking short hair so much better.

The other day though, it was getting in my way, since it’s in an in between stage where it looks dumb when I pin it back, but it’s not long enough for a ponytail.

It pissed me off enough to exclaim “I can’t wait until my hair is long enough to put in a ponytail!!”

My boyfriend just went “Nooooooo!” And went on to say that when my hair starts getting long, I will never put it up, and he will be my personal hair advisor, and he will aways do my hair for me so that I don’t have to put it in a ponytail. He thinks girls with ponytails look bald and stupid and what’s the point of having long hair if you’re just going to put it back all the time?

I thought this was incredibly cute. So it really didn’t bother me any. I was not that adamant about having it up constantly anyway.

Your friend just finally has someone to impress. So who cares what she does with her hair? Now, if it turns out Adam only likes her for her hair and starts to constantly control her, then it becomes a problem.

But making minor changes for an SO is okay, in my opinion.

For example, my boyfriend likes to grow out his beard/mustache combination which I absolutely cannot stand.

So before he ever comes near me, I make him shave it, and he does.

It’s a minor change. Nothing too huge. It’s not like I’m constantly telling him what to do.

People change all the time anyway.