Guest blog submitted by MandeeCoyMaiden.
I’ve pretty much been taller than average since I could stand up. In my preschool class photo, I had to stand in the back row with the all the boys (cooties much?). In the size-order kindergarten line, I was the tall, lonely child at the end with no partner (there was an odd number of students). I’ve been tall enough to go on any rollercoaster since about age 7, and the list goes on from there. This is compounded with the incredible insecurity about height given to me by my similarly-sized mother – nothing would make her happier than to see me wearing flats every day and slouching over.
Then of course are the lovely words of wisdom instilled to me over and over again over the years:
“Don’t worry – the boys will catch up to your height sooner or later!” Well folks, I’m 22 now, and it still seems like I’m towering over 90% of the guys I meet. One day, when I was feeling extra insecure about being tall and wondering where exactly all the tall men were – I did a little research.
The countries with the top five tallest men (in order) are as follows: 1. The Netherlands, 2. Denmark, 3. Sweden, 4. Czech Republic, 5. Norway.* I immediately requested tourist brochures to all of the above places, and am currently trying to convince my friends to go to on vacation to Stockholm next summer.
Fortunately, I have overcome much of my height-induced insecurity. I’ve started wearing heels on a regular basis, and get a little surge of pleasure every time a short person asks me to reach something on a high shelf in the supermarket or mall. But, I still hesitate to give my number to guys that seem too short for me. Does any girl enjoy feeling like a giantess? Maybe in time I’ll overcome this – if not, I guess I’ll consider immigrating to Scandinavia.
Does anyone else feel insecure about their height? Which tall nation would you move to?
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I don’t like being short!
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I always wanted to be taller but then heels became my best friend
besides, tall girl’s are best for modeling anyway, so that’s a perk! hehe.
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I tend to be shorter than alot of people, even my height is the average height in China and Hong Kong ( I’m 5’6″). The way I look at it, I just tell people it makes me that much more adorable.
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Cross the border – note that all those places are areas with frost and snow. And being amost 6’5″, I can tell you that Canadian men are often tall.
sunflower / 359 posts
I’ve always been a little taller than average. I’m taller than majority of girls but there are chicks that tower over me. Although I wish I was two inches shorter, I can’t help but see a girl that’s 5’10″-5’11″ and see the beauty in her height. Sometimes, it makes me wish I could shoot up two-three more inches to reach them.
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Um…do you have AIM? Yahoo!? :-p ha, just kidding, but there are plenty of taller guys who also like tall women. You just have to get good at finding them. A few suggestions:
* Many social web-sites allow you to search by height–even Myspace, of all things. Yes, it’s a little creepy to do so, but if you truly want to find tall men, that’s a quick method.
* Hang out where tall men are. Is there a university next to you? Go to the more obscure male sports (men’s volleyball, soccer, track, etc.) and strike up a conversation sometime. Again, would some people frown on this? Yes. Or, hang out at the volleyball courts at the beach, join intramural sports teams, etc. Just get a job at Big & Tall already, ha.
On a serious note, I wish you all the luck in the world. My world has been enriched by some lovely tall women, and it makes me sad that they are often dateless just b/c they have a few more inches than the next girl. Height isn’t a choice.
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I live in the nederlands (#1) and yes guys are tall here but to be honest thedederlands people are not so tall. Some are very but we are not as huge as we are thought to be. haha
Being tall is nice, I’m a average/short woman (5’5″) and I like tall men but I don’t like the reach so I wear heals everyday. If I don’t wear heals I feel very short and uncomfortable. I don’t like it when people tell me that I’m little but I do like asking people for help with reaching things…it gives me reasons to strike up conversation. =)
good luck with your vacation!
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I’M NOT SHORT.
I’M JUST FUN – SIZED =]
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I cannot begin to identify with this, but you do have my sympathy as another person who’s on the far end of the normal height spectrum–in my case, however, it’s that I’m very short, about five feet tall.
Love what the previous poster said about being fun-sized, LOL…I’m gonna use that the next time someone gives me crap about being little!
tulip / 12 posts
i’m 6 foot 1 and even though being a tall guy is generally conceived as a good thing, it can get annoying because everytime i see people the first thing they say is, “look how tall you are!” and i’m like, “what about my personality?” haha lol
great post!
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I’m perfectly 60″ inches tall
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I am 5′ 5 and i think i am on the short side of average ( it doesn’t help that i am the shortest in my family…
). My brothers are from 6′ to 6′ 4 and i don’t see them as tall, although i know they are. But my 6′ brother has a best friend who is 6′ 8 and i do consider him tall!
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@immaairheadxl@xanga - Lol I love that! I’m so going to use that next time someone comments about my height. I’m 5’1″ which actually I’m learning to enjoy being this height.

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@breakingthemold@datingish - and usually, it make guys laugh when i’m like
I’m short. 5’2, but with some high heels, i’ll be almost tall as you. =) hahhaaha
Yes. Flirt. Lols!
sunflower / 451 posts
I’m 5’8″, and I live in Ecuador, where the average woman is about 5’2″. Usually, I don’t mind being the height I am, since in the US and Europe, it’s not that tall, even though it’s not short, either. But here, I feel like a giantess next to all the petite, curvy, pretty Latin women. I am eye to eye with most of the men here.
I loved visiting the Netherlands, but there weren’t as many super tall people as I thought there would be. But it was nice not being considered huge for once. I dated a Dutch guy for awhile, and he actually thought I was pretty tiny. (Both his sisters were 6 feet tall, so compared to them, I was.) I have since fallen for a tall Swedish guy who also thinks I’m pretty tiny. (He prefers women who are at least 5’9″, but they don’t absolutely have to be.) It’s a nice feeling.
Average height isn’t the only reason I want to go to that part of the world, it’s more the culture, but whenever I feel like a giantess over here, I remind myself that someday I’ll be in Europe and I won’t stick out like a sore thumb anymore.
(And don’t get me wrong, I love living here, I just don’t like towering over all the other women and having a hard time finding belted jackets that actually look like they were made for me, not someone with a completely different body type.)
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i’m 4’10.
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I’m completely opposite of you. I feel like I am too short for so many people! I’m pretty much exactly 5’4″ and while that USED to be the average height of women, it is not that case anymore. I am short. My best friend is tall and so through her complaints, I understand your annoyance with being so tall. However, you should just appreciate it! Even with the disadvantages such as having to climb on the shelves at the grocery store just to get the box of whatever that I need (seriously, happens ALL the time…its embarrassing because boxes go flying and I just look ridiculous), I look for the positives, such as always being able to wear high heels. I hope you find your tall boy!
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@GreekPhysique@xanga - Thanks for the advice and words of encourage – I’m trying to put myself out there!
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@GirlMeetsWorld0407@xanga - Thanks! I’m always jealous of those girls that wear 4″ heels with ease!
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@EccentricSiren@xanga - I glad that someone else understands my pain of feeling like a giantess! I’m also jealous you found a tall swedish man – i’m still looking for one
sunflower / 451 posts
@mandeecoymaiden@xanga - we’re not official yet, because of the distance (he’s in Sweden and I’m in Ecuador), but I hope when I’m on the right continent we will be. But who knows. He might have single male relatives! hehe
And if you don’t mind my asking, how tall are you?
sunflower / 451 posts
@manishmathur@datingish - I don’t think that noticing you’re tall means that they don’t notice your personality. It’s just that to notice your personality, they have to actually get to know you first. I have long, reddish, curly hair, and it’s the first thing people notice about me. But that doesn’t mean people don’t care about my personality once they get to know me.
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Height is a good thing. But I can see the complications you may encounter finding a guy. Awwwwww.
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I live in Sweden, in high school all my girlfriends were taller than me. I’m 5″3 – wanna trade country with me?
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Denmark, Norway and Sweden are the three most awesome countries on this planet. Pick any one, you can’t lose.
hydrangea / 83 posts
I’m 5’3, considered a almost perfect height where i live, Nebraska. Most of the girls are medium, and most of the guys are
1. Tall
2. scary muscular
So i’ve never wanted to move anywhere to better fit in
I did, however, once have a boyfriend exactly my height. If i stood right i could look down at him. That was funny! (i envy the taller people of the world)
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I’m 5’10 so I was always taller than most. I think meeting my husband helped. He’s only an inch taller than me but he says he loves that I’m tall and doesn’t even care if I wear high heels and am taller than him.. so that helps. Mostly it’s just confidence! I’m usually unaware of how tall I am now, until someone points it out. haha
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I’m 5’11″, I’ve been insecure about my height since I was in elementary school. Yes, I’ve been taller than most of the guys I’ve grown up with, but I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of. Although I don’t wear heals often and sometimes I don’t even like wearing tennis shoes because of the added height it gives me. I tower over most of my friends, but it’s kind of my identity, haha, it makes me stand out and lately I’ve really learned to embrace my height. If I try to imagine myself any other way I can’t, because this is the way I am and people can just accept that. You can’t change your height, although I’ve wanted to for many years, haha, but you just have to love yourself for who you are and not worry about the fact that you’re different, most argue that it’s a pretty good different. I mean, we can reach higher places, we have long legs, and most people find us intimidating; you can’t beat all that, haha
Love yourself, love your height! Go tall girls!
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Great place to meet tall men: Rowing. Average height of men on the last olympic team was 6’4″ (at least on the Canadian side). Join a recreational or learn to row program and have fun meeting tall men who just also happen to be athletic.
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I’m in highschool and I’m 5’9, and my first two boyfriends were shorter than me. Yeah, Im not planning on doing that again!
I’ve come to terms with my height mostly but still my dream guy would be at least a couple inches teller than me, if only so i could wear high heels with him =)
But if a guys my height that’s ok too. I like going barefoot anyways!
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omgshhhhhh every towers over me :’( I’m only 5″ tall >.< and i’m turning 17 =__= yep..i’m really short :[
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OMG touche. im 5″11 and most days i hate my height as in, it comes with big feet so it’s hard to get shoes AND i can never wear 4 inch heels they always look soo good
but seriously, noone wants to see a giant on the streets with heels. they’d be like “WHY are u wearin heels when u are already so tall” sorta thing n when i meet someone for the first time, they look at my feet first to make sure it’s my natural height. haha
still i’ve come to terms and somedays i like it, like never having to alter jeans or the perks of being able to pull off a super long maxi dress.
heh <3
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props, i’m six feet tall and im notorious for dating shorter guys!
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I guess my point of view is different as a guy who stands 6’5″. I’m comfortable with my height, and I don’t care that a lot of people I’ve met are shorter than me. As a matter of fact, 90% of the lady friends I talk to or just other girls I’ve met are about a foot and a couple of inches shorter than me. As I said before, I know that from experience, tall guys seem to be viewed differently by girls. But at times, they can be too tall. Though I haven’t had that happened, the fact is that in America, for the most part, there aren’t many girls about my height or just inches shorter. I feel comfortable with it though. I have visited and lived in Europe before as well, and though the percentage is lower, girls are still shorter( for the most part). I think you should just feel comfortable with yourself. I know a couple who’s been together for 25 years, and the wife is 5 inches taller than the husband. They’re happy, so I’m sure there are possibilities still out there for you.
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If only. Ive always been the exact opposite of you. Im short. Not ridiculously short, but enough to barely scrape 5″2. Ive always felt insecure about it. Growing up with a bunch of guy friends, theyd have conversations over my head, reached shit i couldnt. Then again, my feet grew to a size 9 in 5th grade; Ive always lived in heels. I feel bad; at least I can fake the height. I may get teased for wearing 5″ heels everywhere I go, & platform sneakers, but I can at least lie to myself for a bit. =/
if it helps, i envy you. I find height a beauty; if only i had the luxury. id kill to be tall.
<3 me
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I always felt short because most of my friends were at least an inch taller than me, but now living with my room-mate I feel really tall. I understand what some of those girls were talking about, now. I don’t want to wear my tall shoes when we go out, for fear of looking like her babysitter or like I’m taking my younger cousin out for the day. I like having to look up to people, though, so I think I shall move to the Czech Republic.
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I’m 5’10″ and wear heels all the time. My short friends give me crap for it: heels make me a solid foot taller than my shortest friend. It sucks being such a tall girl sometimes, because even though i’m tall i’m not built like a model, so i lose that advantage. I have a lot of guy friends, but only one of them is taller than me (that might just be that i accidently have really short guy friends too) Still, it is fun to be able to see over the tops of lockers and people when my friends can’t see anything
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“I’m not short, I’m space efficient.”
Join the blogring! (for all those shorties out there)
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I feel the same way too
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I’m 5′ and I’m not moving to Asia lol
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talking about being tall..most of the guys here are of my height and if i were to be with heels..i wud be taller than them..n i have always wanted to move to a country with taller guys. being asian, most of the western countries wud definitely haf guys of taller height..so i wanna go to any country with tall guys..haha..n my height n size wud be average if i were in America..
n we taller girls always complain about the same thing. n everytime me n my girlfriends check out guys..my usual comment would be “not tall enough!”..boohoo..
dated a guy of my height or maybe a lil shorter..he cudnt give me enough confidence when standing next to him.cant even wear heels n i think i even slouched!..
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I only feel bad about my height when I go to a concert and can’t see anything because everyone is so tall.
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I was never insecure about being too tall, but rather hated it that everyone else was so much shorter xD I didn’t feel too tall most of the time cause I’m well-proportioned, but whenever I took pictures with other girls or looked myself in the mirror next to them—-it was like we were built with different scales! Also guys were always too short or as tall I was and that didn’t attract me at all. Then I met my boyfriend, to most people he’s huge, but to me he’s just..regularly taller. I feel small and protected and I love it ^^
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I’m completely the opposite, I’m only 5′ and what I wouldnt exchange for extra height! At least you don’t have the problem buying clothes and shoes. I get teased if I needed to go to the kiddies’ section to buy clothes to fit me.
I’ve heard a wonderful story about this guy’s grandma and grandfather. The story was why did your grandma chose someone a head shorter than her. It was love at first sight, she was introduced to him at a table. She sat down and had a lovely conversation with him. When they stood up, she already fell in love with him despite the height difference.
Don’t despair, one day you will find your knight =>
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why do ppl care about height so much ??? i mean short ppl has short ppl’s way to pick cloth or bd and tall ppl has tall ppl’s way,,why bother so much??? u dont like ur natural being??? but u cant change
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I’m short. I’m asian so I guess that is why. Most asians are short, but some can be mighty tall. My family is consist of short girls and tall guys, haha! I feel bad cause I always wanted to be taller, but I accepted myself to be sort cause being short rules. I’m barely 5 feet. I don’t care anymore because I’m who I’m. If people can’t accept my height, I say screw you. I actually like being short, cause some guys like short girls. They don’t want the girl to be taller then them. My boyfriend and I are perfect. He is almost 5’10 and I’m 5’0. I love it.
I dated a 6 feet guy before, and people thought we were cute together. It’s sooo cute, I agree. The girl is short and the guy is tall!
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i’m 5’6 and where i live, that’s actually taller than average. average height here is about 5’2”. pretty short yeah?
anyway i love my height. sometimes i feel like i tower over everyone (guys included. yup, short guys here) and get really self-conscious about wearing heels. but most of the time i love it cos i stand out. lol
hydrangea / 51 posts
I’m only 5’6″, but I guess that’s like the average height (secretly, I want to be an inch or two taller… and I don’t know why). Where I live, people actually say I’m tall (and most of the guys I know are shorter than me). Can’t wait to get out of my area! Even when I go for a drive to the neighboring cities, I see a big difference in height… strange.
My friend, on the other hand, is 5’1″ and she says she hates people looking down on her. She wants to be my height. Lol.
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Hi, I’m from the Netherlands, I am 5’6 (1.68 m.) and my boyfriend is 6’4 (1.92 m.). I have never dated any men shorter than 6’2 and never had any trouble finding tall men around here. My girlfriends are tall too. Most of them are between 5’9 and 6’2 (with matching shoesizes, I don’t know how you’re doing in that department, but size 10, 10.5 or 11 are not uncommon), so they call me ” shorty”. And even though I am considered average height here according to the Dutch Wikipedia, in public I am small and I always wish I was a little bit taller…
But if you’re looking for tall men, you’ll find them here!